gongyi020 发表于 2023-1-14 21:20:24

危险的“14岁现象”,男孩女孩都会遇到!家长再忙也要看一下!

<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="font-size: 16px;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: auto;border-radius: 8px;"></span></p></section></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">有调研从多家心理咨询机构了解到,在他们接待的青少年咨询案例中,14岁孩子逆反心理最突出。<br></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" data-color="#852724"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">一些孩子对家长的批评不再虚心接受,开始反驳、顶撞,越是父母、老师不让做的事,他们越起劲儿,一定要和家长“对着干”。<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60);box-sizing: border-box;">这就是我们常说的“14岁现象”。</span></strong></span></p></section></section><br><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="95326" data-color="#852724"><section style="text-align: center;"><section style="display: inline-block;"><section style="width: 2em;margin-left: -15px;margin-bottom: -15px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width:100%;display: block;"></span></section><section data-brushtype="text" style="background: rgb(133, 39, 36);padding: 6px 1em;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);border-width: 3px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(254, 254, 254);transform: rotate(0deg);">“14岁现象”</section></section></section></section><p><br></p><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" data-color="#852724"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">前段时间,媒体报道了一则骇人的新闻:</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="152" data-source-title=""><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">14岁少年小肖在网吧刺杀了自己的父亲。报道中写道,小肖的作业本里有一道题,“当你的父母错怪了你时,你会怎么办?”</p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">他如此回答:宽容、沟通、交流。可以相信,他是一个心存善念的人,也希望自己能与父母沟通。</p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">但是,正如新闻里描述的,当爸爸把他从网吧里揪出来扇耳光时,他没有说一句话。</p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">接下来,他向爸爸掏出了弹簧刀……</p></section></section></section></blockquote><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">在这起弑父的人伦惨剧中,不难注意到,这位少年正好处在14岁的年龄。</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">无独有偶,北京市关心青少年协会副会长冉乃彦提道:</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="80" data-source-title=""><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">当孩子达到14岁左右的年龄时,许多家长会发现,原本听话懂事的孩子变得越来越叛逆,而且心思敏感、脆弱,遇事多疑又不愿向家长倾诉,甚至学习成绩欠佳、行为习惯不良……</p></section></section></blockquote><section><br></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="95326" data-color="#852724"><section style="text-align: center;"><section style="display: inline-block;"><section style="width: 2em;margin-left: -15px;margin-bottom: -15px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width:100%;display: block;"></span></section><section data-brushtype="text" style="background: rgb(133, 39, 36);padding: 6px 1em;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);border-width: 3px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(254, 254, 254);transform: rotate(0deg);">“14岁”是个危险期</section></section></section></section><p><br></p><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" data-color="#852724"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">英国科学家曾进行过的一项研究证实,<strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60);box-sizing: border-box;">青少年最容易出现打架、叛逆、学坏的年龄是14岁。</span></strong></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">英国研究者对9~35岁的男性参与者进行了调查记录,受试者被要求玩电脑游戏。通过记录参与者对游戏结果的满意或者失望程度,科学家对他们每一个人的情绪反应进行了分析。</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60);box-sizing: border-box;">结果发现,青少年更热衷于能够让他们感到刺激的危险行为,其中14岁的少年最为突出。</span></strong></span></p></section><mpcpc js_editor_cpcad="" class="js_cpc_area cpc_iframe" src="/cgi-bin/readtemplate?t=tmpl/cpc_tmpl#1673578057398" data-category_id_list="1|16|17|2|21|24|28|29|31|35|36|37|39|41|42|43|46|47|48|5|50|51|55|56|57|58|59|6|60|61|62|63|64|65|66|7|8" data-id="1673578057398"></mpcpc><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">英国伦敦大学学院神经科学家分析认为:“与儿童有所不同,青少年能够权衡自身行为的好坏利弊,但他们更关注这些行为能否给自己带来快乐和刺激,而不是安全与否。”</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">还有一些初中年级段的班主任教师反映,14岁左右的年龄属于成长中的一个“危险期”,这个年龄的孩子容易出现心理问题。</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">王老师是一位有着十余年初中教学经验的班主任教师,她曾针对14岁左右学生的教育问题撰写过一篇论文。</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">王老师提到,14岁左右的学生通常存在以下六种心理特征:</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="121" data-source-title=""><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">第一,自我感觉“长大了”,表现自我的意识增强;</p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">第二,不成熟,讲歪理;</p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">第三,过于自信形成自负心理;</p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">第四,意志薄弱,适应性差,承受压力的心理空洞出现;</p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">第五,出现消沉、颓废、麻木、情感冷漠等不正常情感;</p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">第六,出现暴躁、报复、易激动、寻求刺激等现象。</p></section></section></section></blockquote><section style="letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;box-sizing: border-box;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">王老师举了一个例子:</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">一名姓张的男生,学习成绩优良,却在与同学相处中常常出口伤人,动辄打人。他多次学着影片中的武打动作伤及他人。当问及他做这些事时是怎样想的,这位男生的回答却是轻描淡写:“和同学并没有矛盾,就是想发泄。”</span></p></section><section><br></section></section><br><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="95326" data-color="#852724"><section style="text-align: center;"><section style="display: inline-block;"><section style="width: 2em;margin-left: -15px;margin-bottom: -15px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width:100%;display: block;"></span></section><section data-brushtype="text" style="background: rgb(133, 39, 36);padding: 6px 1em;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);border-width: 3px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(254, 254, 254);transform: rotate(0deg);">“14岁”也是最佳塑造期</section></section></section></section><p><br></p><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" data-color="#852724"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">尽管14岁左右的孩子出现这样或那样的问题,但教育专家冉乃彦在接受记者采访时强调说:“14岁是危险叛逆期,更是最佳塑造期。”</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60);box-sizing: border-box;">作家柳青说:人生的道路虽然漫长,但关键的常常只有几步,特别是当人年轻的时候。</span></strong></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">冉乃彦认为,对孩子来说,14岁左右的年龄就是这样的关键期,家长要抓好孩子的这段关键期。</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">为了说明少年期在孩子成长过程中的关键性,他举了几个成功名人的故事:</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">桥梁专家茅以升14岁看到桥梁垮塌压死人后立志要修建最牢固的桥;</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">14岁的爱因斯坦和两个同伴谈论世界新闻、科学成就,后来他们三个全部成为科学家。</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">冉乃彦强调说:</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><blockquote class="js_blockquote_wrap" data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="90" data-source-title=""><section class="js_blockquote_digest" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">“14岁左右的孩子是‘半成熟’的,既有独立成熟的一面,又限于经验、年龄独立不起来,也就造成了家庭教育最困难的时期。</p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;">在这一阶段,家长一定要下足功夫,把问题妥善解决,让孩子顺利发展。”</p></section></section></section></blockquote></section><br><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="95326" data-color="#852724"><section style="text-align: center;"><section style="display: inline-block;"><section style="width: 2em;margin-left: -15px;margin-bottom: -15px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width:100%;display: block;"></span></section><section data-brushtype="text" style="background: rgb(133, 39, 36);padding: 6px 1em;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);border-width: 3px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(254, 254, 254);transform: rotate(0deg);">家长应该怎么做</section></section></section></section><p><br></p><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" data-color="#852724"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">那么,作为家长,我们能给孩子哪些引导和支持呢?</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">对于这一年龄孩子的家庭教育来说,家长最难处理的问题,就在于“叛逆”、“不听劝”,很多家长因为孩子的叛逆,产生了很大的心理压力。</span></p></section><mpcpc js_editor_cpcad="" class="js_cpc_area cpc_iframe" src="/cgi-bin/readtemplate?t=tmpl/cpc_tmpl#1673578067160" data-category_id_list="1|16|17|2|21|24|28|29|31|35|36|37|39|41|42|43|46|47|48|5|50|51|55|56|57|58|59|6|60|61|62|63|64|65|66|7|8" data-id="1673578067160"></mpcpc><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">他们主要有如下四种表现:</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">1.很多家长会认为这个叛逆的孩子是这辈子用来折磨自己的,这是典型的受害者心态。</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">2.面对叛逆的孩子,自己感到无能为力,完全失去了对孩子的操控能力;</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">3.孩子已经让家长疲惫不堪,陷于绝望,同时对生活失去了信心和热情;</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">4.很多家长感觉到很自卑,责怪自己教育孩子的无能和失败。</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">既然这四种心态都是不可取的,家长在对待孩子玩的叛逆问题时,到底应该注意些什么?</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1px; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin-top: 0.5em;margin-right: 5px;width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(133, 39, 36);box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 0;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 2px;padding-left: 2px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: justify;color: rgb(133, 39, 36);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin-right: 10px;margin-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">无条件接纳孩子、爱孩子</strong></span></p></section></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" data-color="#852724"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">很多时候孩子不是故意和家长对着干,而是由于成长期的家庭教育或生理原因还有环境中的影响;</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">所以家长们了解了这些成因后,首先要做的就是接纳和理解孩子,不要再埋怨孩子;</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60);box-sizing: border-box;">还要知道,叛逆期只是一个人成长过程中短暂的一个时期,它很快就会过去;</span></strong></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">所以家长们能无条件的接纳和爱孩子,帮助孩子们把这个时期尽快度过去,未来你的孩子才会更爱你,更尊敬你。</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1px; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin-top: 0.5em;margin-right: 5px;width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(133, 39, 36);box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 0;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 2px;padding-left: 2px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: justify;color: rgb(133, 39, 36);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin-right: 10px;margin-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">家长要认知自我,改变自我</strong></span></p></section></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" data-color="#852724"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">在这一点上,希望家长能够重视起来,因为很多家长在自己的成长过程中,对自我不了解;</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">甚至自己并不成熟,遇到事情并不能理性客观的去解决问题;</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">甚至有的家长自己也极端情绪化,没等孩子发脾气,自己就先发火了,那么家长这种不理智的情绪状态,在教育孩子的过程中,很多时候是使孩子叛逆的导火索,因为教育孩子的前提就是要有平和的心态。</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: rgb(60, 60, 60);box-sizing: border-box;">所以希望家长能改变自己,把控好自己的情绪状态,这样你的教育才是有效的。</span></strong></span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1px; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin-top: 0.5em;margin-right: 5px;width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(133, 39, 36);box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 0;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 2px;padding-left: 2px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: justify;color: rgb(133, 39, 36);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin-right: 10px;margin-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">陪伴是最好的爱</strong></span></p></section></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" data-color="#852724"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">在这个时期的孩子,还有一个心理特点,就是他们经常是处在混乱和矛盾的心理状态之中;</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">虽然他们觉得自己长大了,想像一个成人一样去处理问题和解决问题,但是因为他们缺乏相关的经验;</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">所以很多时候他们是失败的,那这种失败再结合典型的混乱矛盾心理,让孩子此时的心理状态非常痛苦;</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">如果家长此刻能带着无条件的接纳和爱陪伴着孩子,孩子会感受到家庭的温暖,这种温暖会让孩子的叛逆减少很多,所以家长们可以试一试。</span></p></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section></section><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; box-sizing: border-box; letter-spacing: 1px; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="display: inline-block;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin-top: 0.5em;margin-right: 5px;width: 0.7em;height: 0.7em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgb(133, 39, 36);box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 0;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 2px;padding-left: 2px;display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;text-align: justify;color: rgb(133, 39, 36);line-height: 2;letter-spacing: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin-right: 10px;margin-left: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="box-sizing: border-box;">父母应留下一点自己的时间</strong></span></p></section></section></section><section style="box-sizing: border-box;" data-color="#852724"><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">父母关爱孩子,但不能成为孩子的保姆,上下学接送,孩子看书,自己陪读,一切围着孩子转,让孩子产生依赖性。</span></p></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">父母应该主动地寻找一点时间和空间,暂把孩子放在一边。这不是不管孩子,只是为孩子创造更好的心理环境。</span></p></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">抚养孩子并不意味着父母要放弃个人的需要和夫妻间的交流。利用这点空闲,夫妻间多交流与沟通,夫妻关系的和谐对家庭稳定至关重要。</span></p></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">不少家庭,正是因为夫妻不和,整日吵架,甚至闹离婚,使孩子受到极大的伤害,父母形象地位在孩子心目中大打折扣,这是应努力避免的。</span></p></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">另外,父母需要这点空闲时间做点自己喜欢的事情,远离繁琐的家务和工作,调整一下自己的心情,放松一下紧张的神经。</span></p></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">要有一点幽默感,不要为自己的一点点错误懊悔不已。</span></p></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">相信自己是一位好父母。</span></p></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;"><p style="letter-spacing: 1.5px;line-height: 1.75em;margin-left: 10px;margin-right: 10px;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">善于工作,善于休息,才能更善于教养孩子。</span></p></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" data-color="#852724"><p><br></p></section></section><h1 style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, &quot;PingFang SC&quot;, &quot;Hiragino Sans GB&quot;, &quot;Microsoft YaHei UI&quot;, &quot;Microsoft YaHei&quot;, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: justify; widows: 1;"><p style="font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, &quot;PingFang SC&quot;, &quot;Hiragino Sans 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