gongyi020 发表于 2023-11-29 11:58:57

钱志亮:儿童共情的需要

<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><section style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 578px;height: 460px;"></span></section></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">孩子渴望被人理解。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">儿童害怕被人了解,但又渴望被人理解。</span></strong></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">如果不被人理解,那是非常孤单的。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;">所以,人人渴望被人理解,让人“感同身受”,</span><span style="text-indent: 0em;color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">希望有人能够理解自己、因为被人理解而兴高采烈、不停地寻找知音、渴望自己有一个兄弟或姐妹、与某个人处于“共生状态”。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="text-indent: 0em;color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="text-indent: 0em;color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">家人和老师需要学会共情的表达方式:</span></section><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="text-indent: 0em;color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;">“你是对的,我能理解你。”</span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;">“当你告诉我你的经历时,我感受到揪心的疼痛,我想这也许是你所感受到的。”</span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;">“你一定付出了很多努力,辛苦了。”</span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;">“你没精打采的样子看起来很沮丧,很郁闷。我还感受到,你是不是难过得想哭?”</span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;">“不是说你真的需要这么做,而是您的感受。”</span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;">“你知道吗?在我的生命中,我也有这样一段时间”</span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;"><br></span></strong></span></p><p style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-size: 15px;"><strong><span style="text-indent: 0em;letter-spacing: 1px;">……</span></strong></span></p><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="text-indent: 0em;color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><p style="text-align: center;"><br></p><section style="text-align: center;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></section><p><br></p></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">家长们总是教育孩子做“乖”孩子,称赞孩子时也多用这个“乖”字。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">“乖”有两个含义,其一是乖顺,就是温良、听话;其二是乖巧,就是伶俐、机敏。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"> “乖”一是通情,就是善解人意,关心和体察他人的感受,这是同情心,是善良;</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">二是达理,就是讲道理,懂道理,这是理解力,是智慧;</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">三是在通情达理的基础上,能够克制自己不合理的欲求,这是自制力,是节制。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79); color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">所以“乖”应该是善良、聪慧、节制这三种积极品质的综合表现。</span></strong></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">其实共情不仅仅是让孩子成为“乖孩子”,共情不等于认同或者赞成对方的行为和观点,而是让他感受到有人关注他的感受。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">毕竟,<strong>尽管行为不一定正确,但情绪永远正确,内心感受能被人理解很重要。</strong></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;">“乖孩子”一定能共情、善共情,因为共情是一种社交能力,有助于个体理解和体会他人的感受,也有助于我们处理人际关系中的矛盾。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;">共情是我们与他人建立良好关系的纽带。</span></strong></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;"><br></span></strong></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;">共情能力强的人群能很好地体会他人的感受,更容易体察别人的快乐、痛苦、压力、悲伤,但也可能沉浸其中,产生如亲历般的“替代性创伤”。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;">他们可能被消极情绪劫持,不自觉地承担起本该属于他人的责任,降低对自身感受的关注,忽视自我人格,造成心理内耗,进而催生焦虑、无助、不安的情绪,产生情感耗竭,进而出现倦怠,不堪重负。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;">恰当的共情表达,既不应过度干涉他人的决定,也不要深陷他人的情绪。</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;"></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;">回应他人的情感需求,同时学会避免情绪感染,适当限制自己去接触令人沮丧、难受的信息。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-indent: 0em;">给予他人关怀的同时也不要忘了关爱自己,确保自身状态健康平稳,避免过度消耗自身心理资源。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><br></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 15px;">一位妈妈开车去送女儿到住校小学学习。</span></strong></span></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 15px;"><br></span></strong></span></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 15px;">母亲对孩子说:妈妈虽然没有时间陪你,但妈妈是为了赚更多的钱,将来送你到更好的学校学习,你懂吗?</span></strong></span></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 15px;"><br></span></strong></span></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 15px;">女儿说:我知道。</span></strong></span></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><br></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 15px;">接着女儿又对妈妈说:等我长大了,也要赚很多的钱,送你去最好的养老院。</span></strong></span></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 15px;"><br></span></strong></span></section><section style="text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em; line-height: normal;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 15px;">母亲听后一脚刹车,停在路边放声痛哭。</span></strong></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">这是一个真实的故事。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">这位母亲原以为给孩子提供了最好的物质生活,就是对孩子最大的爱了。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">按照这位母亲灌输给孩子的价值观来看,妈妈认为赚钱送女儿去最好的学校就是爱,女儿认为送妈妈去最好的养老院是爱,这又何尝不是对等的爱的表达方式呢?</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">可是当听到女儿的回答后,她还是忍不住落下了辛酸的眼泪。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">你给孩子的是钱,认为钱里面包含着你的爱。可孩子只看到了钱,没看到爱。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">孩子已经习惯了没有妈妈陪伴的日子,以为钱可以买来一切。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"> <strong>有一种爱叫陪你长大,有一种幸福叫我们共同成长。</strong></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><strong><br></strong></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">不要找借口说没时间,只要父母心中有孩子,总会有时间的。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><strong><br></strong></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 562px;height: 372px;"></span></p></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><br></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><strong><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);">陪孩子是一种不能以任何借口推卸的义不容辞的责任,多忙都要陪。</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: rgb(79, 79, 79); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79);"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.75em; text-align: justify; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; text-indent: 0em;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 1px; text-decoration-style: solid; text-decoration-color: rgb(79, 79, 79); color: rgb(123, 12, 0);">爸爸妈妈给孩子最重要的最好的礼物,应该是高质量的陪伴和良好的家庭教育。</span></strong></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="92013" style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 1.5em; max-width: 100%; display: flex; justify-content: center; align-items: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 2em; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;overflow-wrap: break-word;transform: scaleX(-1);box-sizing: border-box !important;visibility: visible !important;width: auto !important;"></span></section><section data-brushtype="text" style="max-width: 100%; text-align: center; color: rgb(153, 189, 232); font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;">END</span></section><section style="max-width: 100%; width: 2em; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;overflow-wrap: break-word;box-sizing: border-box !important;visibility: visible !important;width: auto !important;"></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="max-width: 100%; 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