情绪的100种语言丨你所有的负面情绪，都是身体发出的求救信号
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;">每个人都有负面情绪。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">负面情绪里包含着非常多重要的信息，打开这个信息，才能真正地了解自己。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但实际上，并没有什么所谓真正的“负面情绪”。<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每一个情绪都是一种语言，都是带着信息来与我们沟通的。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当我们带着觉知，而不是无意识去看这些情绪的时候，就会发现情绪并没有好、坏之分，也不存在真正的“负面情绪”。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">情绪是送信人，每一封信都来自于我们的内心。</span></strong></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果你好好地收下这个信息，理解并应对好这封信，送信人就会走了。</span></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">相反，如果你关门不接待这个送信人，他就会一次次地不请自来，就像一个送快递的，如果你没收到，他就得一趟趟地送。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果你关着门，他就得敲门、甚至撞门。白天你不接收，他晚上还会再来——这也就是为什么我们总在梦中梦见一些我们并不愿意看见和接受的画面。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">越大的情绪，包含着越大、越重要的信息，如果你不接受、不解读，它就会反复出现提醒我们看见。因为这封信里，包含着我们内心的重要需要。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以，如果你处于巨大的情绪中，感觉自己很情绪化，先不要自我批判和自我谴责，这绝对不是什么坏事。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">下面，让我们举例来说说情绪，尤其是负面情绪的价值和好意：</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 556px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;">压抑，</span></strong></span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; caret-color: red; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;">让你获得安全</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;vertical-align: inherit;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 578px;visibility: visible !important;height: 261px;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们在生活中，难免遇到让自己觉得难捱的情况，我们时常会忍一忍。虽然我们觉得当时有压抑，但至少当时你获得了安全：<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8);"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在你没有能力或者准备去应对那个冲突时，压抑保护了你。</strong></span></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每一个压抑都避免了一次我们暂时不愿意去面对的冲突。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">至于我们现在还要不要压抑，取决于我们有没有准备好应对一个可能的冲突，或准备好表达真实的自己。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">老实说，每个人都无法避免出现压抑的情绪。当我们还小的时候，我们依赖父母和他人，我们没有足够的能力独立，没有足够的能力保护自己，不压抑几乎是不可能的。压抑让我们退回到自己的空间内，让我们得以喘息和休憩。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">压抑虽然保证了安全，但是确实委屈甚至扭曲了我们真实的自己，甚至有些人会形成习惯性的压抑。如果一个人被锁在箱子里很久，他的腿是不能马上站立和走路的。如果我们有了压抑的习惯，我们很难在不需要压抑的时候依旧压抑，会变得特别得委屈和愤怒。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">解除习惯性压抑的方法是：</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">努力地觉察和区分，过去（童年）那些“不得不”的压抑。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">然后你需要明白——我现在已经成年了，我真的还需要这样吗？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">现在我的力量与能力，比过去的自己大几十倍。<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我已经有能力去改变，有能力真实地表达自己了。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果我们还愿意承受压抑，那也要接纳自己暂时就是这样的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不要自责和自我伤害。</span></strong></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">害怕、压抑的惯性是客观存在的，解除任何一个习惯都需要时间与力量，不能一蹴而就。</span></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 556px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;">愤怒,</span></strong></span><strong style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(107, 155, 8);">包含着自尊自重的力量</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;vertical-align: inherit;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 578px;visibility: visible !important;height: 272px;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">说到愤怒，很多人会觉得可怕、令人害怕和抗拒。实际上愤怒只是一个情绪而已，它和其他所有的情绪一样。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">会让我们害怕的，是表达愤怒的这个人所附带的其他破坏性的行为和能量。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如，表达：我很生气，这是愤怒；摔东西、打人，也是愤怒。由于承载愤怒的个体是否学会了合理地表达愤怒，而造成的表达方式的不同。<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但愤怒本身只是种情绪，它并不是一定要暴力或者极端表达。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">愤怒里包含着力量和自尊自重。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当你不断地退缩和被侵犯界限，你很难不愤怒。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">力量是我们改变的动力，很多你平时无力干、懒得干、不敢干的事情，当你愤怒的时候你就可以做了，而且很可能效率很高。人类很多的作为和精彩，都是一怒之下、盛怒之下做出来的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但由于我们几乎没有学会如何正确地表达情绪，总是在压抑压抑再压抑之后，情绪无法控制了才被迫爆发，所以愤怒就成了暴力与发泄的代言。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但真正需要去解决的，并不是愤怒本身，而是<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8);">不再压抑愤怒</span>。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">要认识到，我们的身体就像一个容器，当情绪压抑积攒到一定地步，就会像火山爆发一样失控。学习在每一次情绪升起的时候合理地表达真实的自己，合理地表达愤怒，而不是去压抑愤怒。压抑愤怒才会造成无法控制的后果和令人害怕的状况。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">愤怒中蕴含的是力量，你怎么用这个力量是你的选择。实际上悲剧和灾祸不是因为愤怒而生，而是因为你愤怒中的力量的偏差使用而生。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有的人用这个力量去生气、去破坏、去攻击，有的人用这个力量去争取、去发展、去保护。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">怎么用是你的选择，但这个力量是宝贵的资源，就像汽车的马达。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当一个人愤怒的时候，我们内心的声音是什么？</span></section><blockquote style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“这太过分了！”</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“怎么可以这样？！”</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“这太不应该了！”</span></section></blockquote><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们内心一直在追求公平与合理地被对待，这就是自尊与自重，希望更好的力量。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">尽管每个具体的愤怒的人，他们头脑里的观念、界限千差万别，并不总是合适，尤其是人在迁怒的时候。但这里面的倾向是追求自爱和自重。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">能够合理表达愤怒的人都不会过于内在受伤，不会患忧郁症。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 556px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;">嫉妒</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;">告诉你真正想要的是什么</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;vertical-align: inherit;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 578px;visibility: visible !important;height: 246px;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">嫉妒告诉你自己想要的是什么，以及多么想要。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">若你能够稳住神，不去急于排除这种不快，不去急着诋毁、诽谤、发泄不满，而是能够对自己进行细细的观察，你会发现自己的内心有很多的饥饿，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">尤其是童年时的完全无助的饥饿。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">嫉妒来源于我们想要却暂时还没有的东西，或者自己觉得不屑、但又没能获得的东西。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">简而言之，<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8);"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">嫉妒就是我们没能看见、回避和逃避的内在需要。</strong></span></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">嫉妒本身是一种饥饿感，它不来源于肉体，而来源于精神。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">填补精神饥饿最好的方法是：<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">先接纳自己这里是饥饿的，然后如果真的很想要，那就去努力；如果自己不想要，那就彻底地把它放下。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">虽然自我检查内在需求并不是一条轻易的路，但这是一条通往爱和希望的路。而让我们难受的嫉妒，正是提醒我们看见需要的信号灯。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 556px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;">悲伤</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;">包含着疗愈与安慰</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;vertical-align: inherit;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 578px;visibility: visible !important;height: 246px;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">通常我们在经历着悲伤的时候我们会做什么？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">疗伤，独处，与自己待在一起，求助或者自怜，整个人没有力量，也没空思考其他的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多人都不喜欢悲伤。但细细回忆一下，<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每一次悲伤之后，我们的内在都会进行一次蜕变和升级。</strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们会经由经验悲伤，变得越来越强韧，越来越接纳，越来越成熟。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不要去劝说一个正在悲伤中的人尽快走出悲伤，陪着他，倾听他，对他说：如果你难过就尽情地哭出来。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">看着他哭个够，就是对他最好的安慰和爱。</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">相信他在充分的悲伤后会接纳那个巨大的失落，并开始新的生活。</span></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每个人都需要时间和时机来整理、面对自己的内在。<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8);"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">悲伤的尽头是接纳与转化。</strong></span></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一个人若能明白悲伤背后蕴藏着的巨大礼物，那悲伤的使命就完成了，他也会越来越不容易产生悲伤了。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 556px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;">无聊</span></strong><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;">孕育着生命的价值和意义</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;vertical-align: inherit;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 578px;visibility: visible !important;height: 299px;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">无聊甚至是珍贵的，如果你不急着把它赶走的话。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">青少年是很容易感到无聊的，此前太小不能够，此后麻木习惯。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以青春期时的无聊感，是一个被包裹的灯笼。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果他不急着跑出屋外，他会发现包裹中的光，而<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8);"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">那是他接触自己此生原本使命的良机。</strong></span></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">年轻的时候总会感慨人生很无聊，我们在百无聊赖中用很多方法打发和消磨人生。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">然后人就长大了，高考、大学毕业、挣钱结婚养家，人变得匆忙没有空闲的机会，也习惯了用各种声色来消遣无聊。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当我们三十、四十、五十岁的时候，生命中似乎已经忘记了“无聊”的概念。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们把所有的精力都放在了家庭、事业上，在夜深人静的时候又开始问自己：“我内心真正想要什么？我生命的意义何在？”</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">人生最重要的并不是动起来，动起来和忙起来很容易；人生最重要的，是<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8);">能够静下来</span>。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果我们能够在无聊出现的时候，不回避、不逃避，不急于摆脱这种感觉，与自己内在的感觉见个面，那么你就会在里面探寻到生命真正的意义以及自己的真正需要。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">无聊或者感觉没劲，那都证明自己现在的生活或者自己的现状并不是自己想要的，或者不是自己适合的。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">那么什么才是呢？你可以在“无聊”中寻找。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果你能够在无聊中安静下来，那你一定会找到！</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 556px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;">焦虑</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); box-sizing: border-box !important;">调整你头脑里的刻度</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;vertical-align: inherit;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 578px;visibility: visible !important;height: 256px;"></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">现在很多人都很焦虑，焦虑让我们备受煎熬，甚至觉得很可怕。但它本身包含着极有价值的东西。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们觉得焦虑让我们觉得难受，是因为我们从来都没有在焦虑中，认真地去看看焦虑到底想要带给我们什么讯息。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果我们能在焦虑中安静下来，看看焦虑本身，焦虑会告诉你哪里做错了，哪里的界限是有问题的，哪里该停下来，整理整理，不要一个劲地向前冲。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">最常见的产生焦虑的原因是欲望和内在的空虚。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">你不顾现实而过高地期望自己，有完美主义倾向，或者强迫性观念。比如你不顾事情的节奏而希望更快、更早、更好。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">倘若你能深入地察觉你的焦虑，你会看到自己头脑里刻度的偏差。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">把那个刻度调过来，你就会安然而有效。这非常重要，可以避免你此后很多的挫败、无望、自责、慌乱和失眠。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果你坚持回避情绪，你必将被打扰。如果你极力逃开情绪，你将被追上。而如果囚禁它，我祈祷你囚禁不成，因为一旦你成功了，身体就会不得不说话。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">身体和内在是会通过各种各样的方式与我们沟通的。</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如情绪，比如疾病——<strong><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(107, 155, 8);">身体说话的方式是生病，绝大多数的疾病都是因为情绪。</span></strong></span></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以，请停下来，看看内在真正的声音。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: inherit; letter-spacing: 2px; line-height: 2em; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">没有不好的情绪，只有不被尊重的情绪。没有可怕的情绪，只有缺乏了解的情绪.</span></strong></span></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<br><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(190, 26, 29); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 我们的身体是有记忆的，</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(190, 26, 29); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 它记忆着我们一生的经历。</span></strong></span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="87319" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-width="91%" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-style="line-height: 1.5em;text-align: justify;letter-spacing:2px;margin-bottom:10px;font-size: 14px;" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="2484" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="2484" data-color="#ef7060" data-custom="#ef7060" style="outline: 0px; 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outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 639.141px; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(226, 226, 226); box-shadow: rgb(226, 226, 226) 0px 16px 1px -13px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(204, 164, 227); line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">每一种创伤就是，</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(204, 164, 227); line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">内心的创伤也会记载着我们身体上，</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(204, 164, 227); line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">以疾病的形式存在。</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(204, 164, 227); letter-spacing: 0.5px; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(204, 164, 227); line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">其实疾病也是一种语言、</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(204, 164, 227); line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">也是在表达、在期待，</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(204, 164, 227); line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">他记载着被我们遗忘的，</span></strong></span></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(204, 164, 227); line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们无法想象来的过往的创伤。</span></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 0.5px; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">- The End -</strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="87319" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, "Helvetica Neue", ";P<section data-width="91%" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-style="line-height: 1.5em;text-align: justify;letter-spacing:2px;margin-bottom:10px;font-size: 14px;" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8); text-align: center; line-height: 2em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 0.5px; margin-left: 8px; margin-right: 8px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section></section></section></section>转载声明：本文转载自「心理讲师联盟」，搜索「x66657172」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/qkFKomQ1FA3I3WJKsliwMQ">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
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