gongyi020 发表于 2023-7-12 22:08:12

心理专家:图解与孩子沟通的50种方法(老师家长必读)

<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p style="text-align: center;" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><br></p><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-width: 0px; border-style: initial; border-color: currentcolor; text-align: center;"><section style="margin: 10px auto; padding: 15px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; border-color: rgb(245, 246, 247); border-radius: 4px; background-color: rgb(245, 246, 247);"><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box; line-height: 2em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box; background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong style="max-width: 100%; text-align: left; box-sizing: border-box;"> 看点 </strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box;">   语言是具有力量的,我们如何运用语言的力量?图文并茂地介绍了50种有效的沟通方式,希望能用简洁有用的方法,助力教师、家长们提升语言力的潜能。</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section><br></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="font-size: 17px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; widows: 1; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box;">来源丨外滩教育</span></p><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; widows: 1; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image">一句话,也许会使一个稀松平常的场景变得令孩子终身难忘。一句话,也许会让一些棘手的问题轻松地得到解决。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong>语言具有力量。</strong>而每个老师、家长也都具备提升语言力的潜能。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">我们与孩子沟通的语言可以被归纳为5种类型:</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-radius: 9px;"></span></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">即使是“提醒学生打招呼”这样一件小事,也可以从这5个不同的角度来切入:</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-from-tpl="t" mpa-paragraph-type="quote"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 16px;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="7" data-color="#358e77" data-custom="#358e77" mpa-from-tpl="t"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-left: 10px;border-left: 5px solid rgb(53, 142, 119);border-top-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-right-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-bottom-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 13px;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">表扬:</strong>你能主动打招呼了,有进步啊!</span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">批评:</strong>今天还没有做到主动打招呼的同学请站起来,不和对方打招呼很没有礼貌。</span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">提问:</strong>同学们回想一下今天有没有好好与别人打招呼,用手指来跟着老师数一下。</span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">鼓励:</strong>我非常理解还做不到的同学,没关系,慢慢来。</span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">反向激励:</strong>通常这个时候要说些什么吧?!</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">如果能够熟练地使用以上类型的语言,师生沟通也可以得到优化。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong>每一种语言有怎样的特点?有哪些应用方法呢?</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong><span style="font-size: 18px;">表扬的语言</span></strong></span><span style="font-size: 18px;"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"></strong><br></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">表扬具有极大的安抚作用。教师不一定仅仅表扬“优秀学生”“榜样行为”,也可以利用表扬的安抚作用来与学生进行更多正向的、良性的互动。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">任何一个学生身上都有值得被表扬的闪光点,及时发现这样的闪光点,及时做出表扬可以赋予学生乐观积极的力量。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-radius: 9px;"></span></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>值得借鉴的表扬的具体方法:</strong></span></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong><br></strong></span></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>1、意见法 </strong></span><br></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75; text-indent: 2em;"><br></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">定义</strong>:教师向学生表达自己的意见。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br>“老师认为……”这样的“I信息”会比“你真棒”这样的“YOU信息”更具真实性,更容易让学生接受。</p><section style="text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">用语:</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;"><br></strong></p><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-from-tpl="t" mpa-paragraph-type="quote"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 16px;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="7" data-color="#358e77" data-custom="#358e77" mpa-from-tpl="t"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-left: 10px;border-left: 5px solid rgb(53, 142, 119);border-top-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-right-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-bottom-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 13px;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">我这样看……</span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><br></span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">和你说说老师的看法吧。</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;text-align: center;text-indent: 32px;white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;width: 327.812px;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>2、比较法</strong></span><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong><br></strong></span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">定义:</strong>表扬学生比以前做得更好了。</p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;">每个学生都值得被表扬。通过前后对比的方法更容易发现学生的优点,也可以更恰当地对学生进行“个性化表扬”。</p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">用语:</strong></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;"><br></strong></p><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-from-tpl="t" mpa-paragraph-type="quote"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 16px;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="7" data-color="#358e77" data-custom="#358e77" mpa-from-tpl="t"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-left: 10px;border-left: 5px solid rgb(53, 142, 119);border-top-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-right-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-bottom-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 13px;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em;margin-left: 1em;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">上了一个台阶!</span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em;margin-left: 1em;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><br></span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">在不断进步啊!</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 91%;height: auto !important;"></span></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong><span style="font-size: 18px;">批评的语言</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">如何才能恰到好处地批评,往往让教师们头疼。太过严厉的批评可能有损师生间的信任关系,而蜻蜓点水般的批评又起不到作用<strong>。我们可以从掌握批评的基础和要点开始逐渐提升自己对批评的掌控能力。</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">1、具备批评的基础:刻意练习,提升父性特征</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>交流分析理论主张人有<strong style="text-align: left; line-height: 1.75;">3种</strong>自我形式:父母型、成人型、儿童型,</strong></span>它们可以被进一步细分为5种性格特征:母性、父性、成人性、自由的儿童性和顺从的儿童性。</p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-radius: 9px;"></span></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>父性特征强的人在进行批评时更具优势,自带一种“不怒自威”的气场。</strong></span>那么,如何提升自己的父性特征呢?我们可以刻意地练习以下内容:</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-radius: 9px;"></span></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">2、</span></strong><strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">掌握3个要点:从3个维度考量该如何批评</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">批评的要点主要要分清楚“when”(时间)、“who”(人物)以及“how"(具体的方式)。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">3、批评的场景:解决学生间矛盾的小技巧</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">批评的一个重要应用场景就是解决学生间的矛盾。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">学生间产生矛盾后,教师有时容易根据自己先入为主的价值判断而着重批评某一方。这种做法可能会有失公正而使学生产生心结。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">可以试着应用下面的方法,更深入地了解情况、体会学生的心情,做出恰当的批评。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">心理剧疗法</strong></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;"><br></strong></section><section style="font-size: 16px;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><section style="padding: 8px;display: inline-block;width: 520.188px;vertical-align: top;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(72, 162, 139);border-radius: 5px;overflow: hidden;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="padding: 10px;display: inline-block;width: 502.188px;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(136, 136, 136, 0.08);border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(96, 96, 96);border-radius: 5px;overflow: hidden;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);"><p><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;">这是以演剧的方式进行的一种心理疗法。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;">在应用这种心理疗法时,心理咨询师不断变换位置靠近各个当事人,从他们的立场出发阐述自己的看法。这样就可以与当事人产生心理上的共鸣,也可以使其安心。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;">”。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.5px;">教师可以将这个方法应用到学生矛盾的调解场景中。通过不断变换位置,贴近每个学生的立场,更好地化解双方矛盾。</span></span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px;"><br></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">事例:</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">男孩与女孩吵架,起因是男孩打了女孩。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">教师应用心理剧疗法解决问题。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">1. 听取女生的意见</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">女生:老师他打我。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">师:你知道原因吗?</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">女生:不知道。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">师:我们去问问他。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">2. 听取男生的意见</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">师:听说你刚才打了女生。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">男生:因为在考试时我明明没有看她的试卷,她却说我是笨蛋。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">3. 教师站在男生身边</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">师:把刚刚和老师讲的话再说一遍,告诉她原因。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">男生:因为你说我是笨蛋。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">师:被说成是笨蛋很生气吧。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">4. 教师站在女生身边</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">师:但是她也很生气,因为你什么都没说就打了她。很痛吧?</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">女生:很痛。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">5. 教师站在两个人中间</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">师:女生错在不应该用语言伤害男生。男生错在没有沟通而使用暴力。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">以上,<span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>通过改变站立的位置,教师也更容易调整情绪、变换思维,表现出自己对双方的关切。这样可以更好地体会学生的想法,解决矛盾。</strong></span>在应用了心理剧疗法后,教师做出的批评就会更符合事实,更容易被学生接受。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">4、值得借鉴的批评的具体方法:</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br></span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>1、取消法:</strong></span>教师取消某些活动。即不必特意地进行负面批评,取消学生感兴趣的活动本身就会给学生的内心带来触动。如果学生能够反省,则可以重新开展活动。</p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">用语:</strong></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;"><br></strong></p><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-from-tpl="t" mpa-paragraph-type="quote"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 16px;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="7" data-color="#358e77" data-custom="#358e77" mpa-from-tpl="t"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-left: 10px;border-left: 5px solid rgb(53, 142, 119);border-top-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-right-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-bottom-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 13px;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em;margin-left: 1em;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">好,到此结束吧。</span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em;margin-left: 1em;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><br></span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em;margin-left: 1em;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">取消!以后再说吧。</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 100%;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>2、过度矫正法:</strong></span>针对学生的行为进行过度地矫正,不仅要求学生恢复到原有状态,还要求其做到比原有状态更好。</p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">用语:</strong></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;"><br></strong></p><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-from-tpl="t" mpa-paragraph-type="quote"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 16px;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="7" data-color="#358e77" data-custom="#358e77" mpa-from-tpl="t"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-left: 10px;border-left: 5px solid rgb(53, 142, 119);border-top-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-right-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-bottom-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 13px;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em;margin-left: 1em;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">墙壁被弄脏了吧?把这一面墙弄干净。</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75; text-align: center;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong><br></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 100%;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong><span style="font-size: 18px;">提问的语言</span></strong></span><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">提问可以引发学生的思考,激发学生的自省能力。教师可以通过提问引导学生去完成某事而非强行地命令学生。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">利用黄金圈理论进行提问,让学生自主思考以下3个维度的问题,找到答案。这样无论是教师或是学生都会对教育教学目标产生更好的理解,从而更具行动力。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">1、掌</span></strong><strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">握黄金圈理论</span></strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><strong>:从3个维度进行提问</strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 100%;height: auto !important;border-radius: 9px;"></span></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">·</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">用提问应对棘手场景:如何应对说谎的学生?</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">教师可以通过提问,找出真相再进一步正向引导学生。</p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></section><section style="font-size: 16px;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="text-align: center;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><section style="padding: 8px;display: inline-block;width: 520.495px;vertical-align: top;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(72, 162, 139);border-radius: 5px;overflow: hidden;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);"><section style="padding: 10px;display: inline-block;width: 502.526px;vertical-align: top;background-color: rgba(136, 136, 136, 0.08);border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: rgb(96, 96, 96);border-radius: 5px;overflow: hidden;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="text-align: justify;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">1.</span></strong><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"> <strong>把自己当作“火星人”:</strong><br></span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">对一切都感到不可思议,对任何小细节都做出提问</span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">2</span></strong><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">. <strong>不断重复相同的问题:</strong></span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">从不同角度问出同一个问题,找到谎言的自相矛盾之处</span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">3. </span></strong><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><strong>正向引导教育:</strong></span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">教师的职责并非揭穿学生的谎言,而是在了解到事实真相后积极引导学生认识错误</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">以下是一个应对学生说谎的对话事例:</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">2、值得借鉴的提问的具体方法:</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>1、选择</strong></span><strong><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);">法:</span></strong>即让学生从选项中确定目标。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><br></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">即给出2~4个选项作为解决问题的对策,让学生从中选择,确定目标。比如:“A和B你选择哪一个?”:</p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 71%;border-radius: 9px;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>2、数值化法</strong></span><strong><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);">,</span></strong>即让学生的自我评价数值化、具体化。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br>即通过让学生给自己的行为进行打分或进行类比,使他们对自己的状态有一个清晰的认知。比如:“满分100分的话,你认为自己现在能得多少分?”</p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 71%;border-radius: 9px;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong><span style="font-size: 18px;">鼓励的语言</span></strong></span><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">鼓励可以发掘学生的潜力,让学生更加自信、超越自我。说出一些有违事实的套话只会让学生觉得敷衍,不仅不能很好地实现激励效果,反而会引起学生的反感。鼓励的要点是在表达对学生理解的基础上表现关切、给出方向性指引。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);">1、4个步骤:递进地完成鼓励 </span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><br></span></strong></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-radius: 9px;"></span></section><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">可以参考以下实例进行:</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);">2、值得借鉴的鼓励的具体方法:</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>1、倾诉法:</strong></span>教给学生如何表达情感。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;">即有时学生会压制自己的情感,觉得自己不能发脾气、不能哭。教师应该帮助学生解除这种对于内心的限制,促使他们敢于表达自己的情感。</p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">用语:</strong></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-from-tpl="t" mpa-paragraph-type="quote"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 16px;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="7" data-color="#358e77" data-custom="#358e77" mpa-from-tpl="t"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-left: 10px;border-left: 5px solid rgb(53, 142, 119);border-top-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-right-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-bottom-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 13px;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">可以喊出来。</span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><br></span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">生气的话就发泄出来!</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75; text-align: center;"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 80%;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>2、察觉法:</strong></span>把目光投向“目前具备的优势”,即使学生学会关注“目前具备的优势”和“现在能够做到的事”。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">用语:</strong></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;">你好像没注意到,你在……方面有才能。</p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 90%;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><br></p><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong><span style="font-size: 18px;">反向激励的语言</span></strong></span><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">反向激励是语言运用的高级阶段,需要教师具备一定的天赋和演技。不失幽默的反向激励可以迅速激发学生的热情。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);">1、反向激励的3个要点:</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;"><br></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><strong><span style="background-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);color: rgb(255, 255, 255);">2、值得借鉴的反向激励的具体方法:</span></strong><strong style="text-align: left; color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;"></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>1、佯装不知法:</strong></span>教师装作不知道学生所了解的或能够做到的事</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong><br></strong></span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;">对于学生能够做到的事,先装作完全不了解的样子。当学生做到后再通过惊讶的表现来增强他们的自信心。</p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">用语:</strong></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;"><br></strong></p><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-from-tpl="t" mpa-paragraph-type="quote"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 16px;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="7" data-color="#358e77" data-custom="#358e77" mpa-from-tpl="t"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-left: 10px;border-left: 5px solid rgb(53, 142, 119);border-top-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-right-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-bottom-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 13px;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em;margin-left: 1em;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">我觉得你们应该没听过。</span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em;margin-left: 1em;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);"><br></span></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">我觉得大家都不知道,所以先说明一下。</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75; text-align: center;"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 91%;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong>2、中途不知法</strong></span>:在说教的中途停止</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><span style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><strong><br></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">应用“蔡格尼克记忆现象”。让学生因为在意未完成的事,从而自行反思。</p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><strong style="color: rgb(53, 142, 119); line-height: 1.75;">用语:</strong></p><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;"><br></p><section data-mpa-template="t" mpa-from-tpl="t" mpa-paragraph-type="quote"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 16px;"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="7" data-color="#358e77" data-custom="#358e77" mpa-from-tpl="t"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="padding-left: 10px;border-left: 5px solid rgb(53, 142, 119);border-top-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-right-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);border-bottom-color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><section mpa-from-tpl="t" style="font-size: 13px;letter-spacing: 1px;line-height: 1.75em;color: rgb(53, 142, 119);"><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em;margin-left: 1em;color: rgb(96, 96, 96);letter-spacing: 0.5px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 1.75;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(119, 119, 119);">通常,要做…… 算了,还是不说了。</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><p mpa-paragraph-type="body" style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75; text-align: center;"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: center; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="image"><span style="display: none;line-height: 0px;"></span><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;vertical-align: middle;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;width: 90%;height: auto !important;"></span></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body"><br></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; margin-left: 1em; text-align: justify; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); letter-spacing: 0.5px; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.75;" mpa-paragraph-type="body">通过系统性地拆解语言,教师和家长可以对语言产生完全不同的新认知<strong>,本文总结了老师们最关心的问题和典型的应用场景,归纳出50种语言应用的方法,帮助老师和家长提升自己的实战能力,培养出幸福感满满的孩子!</strong></p><p style="margin-right: 1em; 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