如何适当表达愤怒，你学会了吗？
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;visibility: visible !important;width: 615px !important;"></span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible;">“愤怒是一种内心不快的反应，它是由感到不公和无法接受的挫折引起的。”</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: right; visibility: visible;"><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible;">——雅克·希拉尔（美国心理学家）</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px; visibility: visible;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible;">无论是一触即发，还是一味隐忍，愤怒都是坏情绪的红色警报。</span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible;">“愤怒告诉我们，别人对我们使了坏，或者我们内心的愿望无法满足。我们必须要倾听自己的愤怒，因为它能帮助我们保持个性的完整。”</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: right; visibility: visible;"><strong style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible;">——艾耶·古罗·勒内（心理学家）</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px; visibility: visible;"><br></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93224" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible;"><section style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; text-align: center; visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;visibility: visible;"><section style="margin-bottom: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);visibility: visible;"><section style="margin-bottom: -2px;margin-left: -6px;outline: 0px;width: 12px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);visibility: visible;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;display: block;visibility: visible !important;width: 12px !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);visibility: visible;"><br></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);visibility: visible;"><section data-brushtype="text" style="padding: 4px 15px;outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1.5px;color: rgb(63, 62, 63);visibility: visible;"><strong style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(192, 0, 0);letter-spacing: 0.5px;visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;visibility: visible;">学会表达愤怒</span></strong></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);visibility: visible;"><section style="margin-left: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);visibility: visible;"><br></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);visibility: visible;"><br></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; visibility: visible;"><section style="outline: 0px; visibility: visible;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible;">很多时候，我们不但拒绝承受别人的愤怒，也不想表达自己的愤怒。其实，只要方法恰当，愤怒也可以表达出来。一味隐忍可能会让愤怒更加强烈地爆发，关键是找到一个平衡点。毫无疑问，认清自己的需要，学会表达愤怒，就是和他人建立更健康的关系。</span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93224" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="margin-bottom: -2px;margin-left: -6px;outline: 0px;width: 12px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;display: block;visibility: visible !important;width: 12px !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section data-brushtype="text" style="padding: 4px 15px;outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1.5px;color: rgb(63, 62, 63);"><strong style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(192, 0, 0);letter-spacing: 0.5px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">愤怒，男女有别</span></strong></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="margin-left: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“认为男性表达愤怒多于女性的看法，并不准确。”</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: right;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">——雷斯利·布鲁迪《两性情感与家庭》</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">一般来说，男性更多地以攻击性的方式表达愤怒，而女性则常以口头方式表示。而在亲密关系中，女性往往在争吵时的态度更为激烈，甚至比男人更倾向于暴力。<br style="outline: 0px;"></span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">男性发怒的原因常常是由于权利受到威胁，比如想做某事却被禁止;而女性则是因为别人的行为不符合自己的意愿，尤其是感到被拒绝、被忽视和嫉妒时。</span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><br><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“女性常常希望某人或某事有所改变，但自己却无能为力，又看不到出路，于是发怒。”</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; text-align: right; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">——托马斯教授</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><br><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“女性更多地是在家里发脾气。她可能会在工作中忍受上司的无理而一言不发；而在家里，孩子磨蹭却能气得她大怒，暴跳如雷。”</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; text-align: right; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">——心理医生多丽丝·赫尔明《感觉能力》</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">社会规范也在左右着人们对男女表达愤怒的接纳：在某种程度上，小男孩的攻击性是得到认可的。男人提高嗓门，或者想动手捍卫自己，往往被认为是男子汉气概；相反，女人直接表达自己的愤怒就有可能被看成是泼妇，形象大损。</span><br style="outline: 0px;"></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;visibility: visible !important;width: 677px !important;"></span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93224" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="margin-bottom: -2px;margin-left: -6px;outline: 0px;width: 12px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;display: block;visibility: visible !important;width: 12px !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section data-brushtype="text" style="padding: 4px 15px;outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1.5px;color: rgb(63, 62, 63);"><strong style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(192, 0, 0);letter-spacing: 0.5px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">压抑还是爆发</span></strong></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="margin-left: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section></section></section></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><br><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“有一个误区是，从小我们就被教导不要让怒火酿成苦果，害人害己。”</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: right;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">——包罗·奥斯特（心理治疗师）</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">然而压抑愤怒会引起一系列的机能障碍：不满情绪会转化成一种内心的狂躁，让神经饱受考验，甚至变得更敏感易怒；怒火很可能会找到一个替罪羊，发泄在无辜者身上。最关键的是，压抑愤怒并不能真正保护自己的利益，反倒增加自己无能的痛苦。最后，身体会慢慢用不易察觉的病痛来消化这些情绪。</span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank">https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/ ... 0?wx_fmt=jpeg");background-size: cover;background-position: 0% 50%;background-repeat: no-repeat;"><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“那些压抑的怒火会回转头来对自身进行攻击。长此以往，我们的身体就该遭殃了，比如背部疼痛、溃疡、银屑病等等。”</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; text-align: right; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">——包罗·奥斯特（心理治疗师）</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">一项基于面部表情观察的心理学研究发现：只要不是过于激动，愤怒对人的身心健康是有好处的。当出现紧张情绪时，那些以短暂的愤怒做出反应的人，会有一种控制和乐观的感觉，而这正是那些反应为害怕的人所缺乏的。<br style="outline: 0px;"></span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><br><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“在令人紧张害怕的情况下，愤怒是一种合适的情绪。愤怒不是坏事。事实上，愤怒比恐惧对人的健康更为有利。”</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; text-align: right; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">——詹尼弗·莱纳（心理学家）</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">当然，长期的爆发性的愤怒或者对外部世界持有一种敌对情绪，则对健康有害。</span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;visibility: visible !important;width: 643px !important;"></span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93224" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="margin-bottom: -2px;margin-left: -6px;outline: 0px;width: 12px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;display: block;visibility: visible !important;width: 12px !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section data-brushtype="text" style="padding: 4px 15px;outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1.5px;color: rgb(63, 62, 63);"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(192, 0, 0);"><strong style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">发怒三步曲</span></strong></span></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="margin-left: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section></section></section></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><br><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“怒火的背后总是隐藏着痛苦，但是不分青红皂白地乱发脾气也是愚蠢的。”</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; text-align: right; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">——包罗·奥斯特（心理治疗师）</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">必须学会把失望的这种能量向外发泄。当愤怒来临时，试试下面的“发怒三步曲”：</span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><section data-color="#59c3f9" data-custom="#59c3f9" style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93199" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="margin-left: 5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: flex-start;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="margin-left: 5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;outline: 0px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);display: inline-block;font-size: 12px;background: rgb(255, 181, 2);"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">01</span></p></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">分散注意</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5px;margin-left: 10px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;width: 36px;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="outline: 0px;width: 4px;height: 10px;border-left: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);border-right: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);z-index: 2;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 10px;outline: 0px;width: 4px;height: 10px;border-left: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);border-right: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);z-index: 2;"><br></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5.5px; padding: 1em 0.8em; outline: 0px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 1.5px; line-height: 1.75em; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><section style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">当突如其来的愤怒袭上心头，言辞冲撞歇斯底里只能让局面变得更糟。此时最关键的是保持冷静。这不太容易，但你可以试试：</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">默念从1到10；</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">去一个无人的地方大声喊叫；</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">摔打枕头撕纸片等，转移注意力；</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">或者给好朋友打电话倾诉一番好了。</span></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">只有克制对刺激物的瞬间情绪反应，你才能进入下面更理性的环节。<br style="outline: 0px;"></span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93199" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="margin-left: 5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: flex-start;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="margin-left: 5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;outline: 0px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);display: inline-block;font-size: 12px;background: rgb(255, 181, 2);"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">02</span></p></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">理清思绪</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5px;margin-left: 10px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;width: 36px;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="outline: 0px;width: 4px;height: 10px;border-left: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);border-right: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);z-index: 2;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 10px;outline: 0px;width: 4px;height: 10px;border-left: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);border-right: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);z-index: 2;"><br></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5.5px; padding: 1em 0.8em; outline: 0px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 1.5px; line-height: 1.75em; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">注意到了吗？有时候只是一件无足轻重的小事，就能让你变得气急败坏，怒不可遏。到底是什么点燃了你心中的怒火？试着问问自己这些问题：</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">是你感到受伤害吗？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">他/她是有意还是无心？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“别人肯定是故意的”，你肯定自己没有弄错吗？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">是不是你太敏感的原因？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">情况真的严重到你暴跳如雷吗？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">有没有不发怒却能解决问题的方式？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">你大吼大叫倒底是想达到什么目的？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">让对方望而生畏，还是希望和他沟通？</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">......</span></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">如果是在盛怒之下，你根本无法回答这些问题。但是，你应当试图回答这些疑问。只有这样，你才能知道接下来该做什么。<br style="outline: 0px;"></span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93199" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="margin-left: 5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: flex-start;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="margin-left: 5px;padding-right: 15px;padding-left: 15px;outline: 0px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);display: inline-block;font-size: 12px;background: rgb(255, 181, 2);"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">03</span></p></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><p style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">表达不满</span></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5px;margin-left: 10px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;width: 36px;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="outline: 0px;width: 4px;height: 10px;border-left: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);border-right: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);z-index: 2;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 10px;outline: 0px;width: 4px;height: 10px;border-left: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);border-right: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0);z-index: 2;"><br></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5.5px; padding: 1em 0.8em; outline: 0px; color: rgb(63, 63, 63); letter-spacing: 1.5px; line-height: 1.75em; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">一旦觉得已经控制了情绪，你就可以表达自己的感受了。但请注意，要真诚，也不要降低自己的原则。</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">心理学家托马斯·高登为我们推荐了一个方法：说出自己的感受，但是不能站在别人的立场。</span></strong><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">和对方说哪些行为让你感到不满：</span></section><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“当你......”；</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">说出自己的感受：“我觉得......”；</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">和对方分享你的期望：“我希望能这样，因为......”；</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">表达你现在的需要并说明原因：“我请你......是因为......”</span></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><span style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">......</span></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">不要忘记你的目的是重新找到关系中的平衡。不要滔滔不绝，不要不容对方说话，也不要在他/她面前让步。只有找到修整你们关系的方法，才能真正达到目的，让每个人都保留自己的完整性。<br style="outline: 0px;"></span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><br><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“表达愤怒的好处远远不止是出了口恶气，它的可贵之处是重建自己和自己、自己和别人的关系。</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; text-align: right; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">——包罗·奥斯特（心理治疗师）</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">所以，好好地小小地发一次怒，会让我们找回和谐。<br style="outline: 0px;"></span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;visibility: visible !important;width: 643px !important;"></span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93224" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="margin-bottom: -2px;margin-left: -6px;outline: 0px;width: 12px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;display: block;visibility: visible !important;width: 12px !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section data-brushtype="text" style="padding: 4px 15px;outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1.5px;color: rgb(63, 62, 63);"><strong style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(192, 0, 0);letter-spacing: 0.5px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">愤怒的风险</span></strong></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="margin-left: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">容易愤怒与不友善的男性易患心脏病，但这个结果并不适用于女性。</span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><br><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“愤怒的人更容易受到严重的伤害，愤怒的男人面临的风险要比女人高。</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; text-align: right; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">——Daniel Vinson（美国密苏里大学首席研究员）</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">另外，美国匹兹堡大学的研究人员也发现，一些妇女之所以易怒和情绪化，可能和她们体内一种变异的“愤怒基因”有关。女性大脑内有一种基因，它能产生复合胺。</span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">在易怒的女性体内，这种基因发生了变异，它使复合胺不能正常发挥作用，越易动怒的女性，这种基因的变异就越明显。</span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1;"><br></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;visibility: visible !important;width: 615px !important;"></span></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; text-align: center; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="93224" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="padding-right: 10px; padding-left: 10px; outline: 0px; text-align: center;"><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;"><section style="margin-bottom: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="margin-bottom: -2px;margin-left: -6px;outline: 0px;width: 12px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;display: block;visibility: visible !important;width: 12px !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section></section><section style="outline: 0px;display: inline-block;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(51, 51, 51);"><section data-brushtype="text" style="padding: 4px 15px;outline: 0px;font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1.5px;color: rgb(63, 62, 63);"><strong style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(192, 0, 0);letter-spacing: 0.5px;"><span style="outline: 0px;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;font-size: 14px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;">发怒时身体会怎样</span></strong></section></section><section style="margin-top: -5px;outline: 0px;display: flex;justify-content: space-between;align-items: center;transform: rotate(0deg);"><section style="margin-left: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section><section style="margin-right: -5px;outline: 0px;width: 10px;height: 10px;background: rgb(254, 254, 254);"><br></section></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">愤怒情绪就像冲锋号，会令身体进入一种“战斗”状态：肾上腺分泌出皮质醇、肾上腺素等，心跳加快，血压上升，呼吸短促而浅，肌肉紧张，大脑处于高度警觉状态。同时，心脏输入四肢的血量也开始增多，而消化和免疫系统却几乎完全关闭。</span></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85794" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;outline: 0px;<a href=" https:="" mmbiz.qpic.cn="" mmbiz_jpg="" mymyeszsylphibolp7iaxuwqwv5picvuccuib8ssfvp7bsbkew87stgwiae7fpgoakveiahxoqiabepn7ptcrygqcrgw="" 640?wx_fmt="jpeg" ""="" target="_blank"><br><section data-style="text-align: justify; line-height: 2em;color:#A5A5A5;" style="padding: 5px;outline: 0px;"><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“愤怒造成的典型紧张反应，使我们处于战斗或逃避的精神状态中。”这种状态，可能对身体造成损害。</span></strong></section><section style="outline: 0px; text-align: right; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong style="outline: 0px;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">——杜克大学医学中心的威廉姆斯《夺命怒火》</span></strong></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 27.2px; widows: 1; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial;"><section style="outline: 0px;"><br></section></section><section style="padding-right: 1em; padding-left: 1em; outline: 0px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; widows: 1; letter-spacing: 0.5px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); font-family: 宋体, SimSun; letter-spacing: 0.544px;">这种状态，可能对身体造成损害。</span></section><section><br></section><section style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;"><span style="outline: 0px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: 微软雅黑; white-space: pre-wrap; widows: 1; font-size: 12px; color: rgb(0, 122, 170);">Ps：</span><span style="outline: 0px; color: rgb(0, 122, 170); font-family: 微软雅黑; letter-spacing: 0.544px; white-space: pre-wrap; widows: 1; line-height: 25.6px; font-size: 12px;">图文源自网络。</span></section><p style="display: none;"><mp-style-type data-value="3"></mp-style-type></p><br>转载声明：本文转载自「心灵成长家园」，搜索「xinling_JY」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/sbKkjl949-i4WGNFY0hr0Q">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
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