亲子交流，注意情绪
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; font-size: 16px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: grid; width: 596px; overflow: hidden; align-self: flex-start; background-color: rgb(242, 249, 237); line-height: 1.6; letter-spacing: 0px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); grid-template-columns: 100%; grid-template-rows: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-left: -3.17188px; outline: 0px; max-width: 101.067%; height: 305.141px; width: 602.344px; transform: rotate(0deg); grid-column-start: 1; grid-row-start: 1; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 0; font-size: 37px; height: 305.141px; pointer-events: none; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; line-height: 0; width: 602.344px; pointer-events: none; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;width: 602.344px;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 2; letter-spacing: 1.5px; font-size: 16px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 596px; vertical-align: top; align-self: flex-start; flex: 0 0 auto; background-color: rgb(242, 249, 237); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 596px; vertical-align: top; align-self: flex-start; flex: 0 0 auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; justify-content: center; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 15px 30px 30px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 512.547px; vertical-align: top; align-self: flex-start; flex: 0 0 auto; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); height: auto; border-radius: 20px; overflow: hidden; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 15px; margin-bottom: 15px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(62, 62, 62); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-indent: 2.2143em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(154, 201, 114); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-indent: 2.2143em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(61, 167, 66);"><strong>当孩子让家长感到有些疲倦的时候，大家会觉得他是个“淘气包”。与其无奈，不如来看看这些保持冷静的方法，同时还能表明立场，给孩子设定必要的界限。<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-indent: 2.2143em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(154, 201, 114); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></p></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-bottom: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; line-height: 0; border-style: solid; border-width: 8px; border-color: rgb(242, 249, 237); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box;vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;height: auto;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-bottom: -30px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: 109.25px; align-self: flex-start; flex: 0 0 auto; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; transform: rotateZ(57deg); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: auto; align-self: flex-start; flex: 100 100 0%; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: 109.25px; align-self: flex-start; flex: 0 0 auto; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; transform: rotateZ(298deg); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; line-height: 0; width: 98.3125px; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: -10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 596px; vertical-align: top; align-self: flex-start; flex: 0 0 auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; justify-content: center; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding: 15px 30px 30px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; width: 512.547px; vertical-align: top; align-self: flex-start; flex: 0 0 auto; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); height: auto; border-radius: 20px; overflow: hidden; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-top: 15px; margin-bottom: 15px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-indent: 2.1875em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="color: rgb(61, 170, 214);"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;">尝试深呼吸</span></strong></span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"> </span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">吸气、呼气……有时候，冷静下来只是一瞬间的事。如果你怒气冲冲，此时跟孩子交流只会让孩子情绪激动。你要做的是：转身，闭上眼睛，深呼吸。花点时间冷静一下，让情绪稳定下来。然后把你想要说的话透彻地想一遍，再冷静地去表达。</span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><br></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(61, 170, 214);">和孩子换位思考</span></strong></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><br></span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">作为家长，目标应该是教育孩子，帮助他们成长。当家长对孩子大吼时，伤害的是他们的自尊和自我价值感。用通俗的话讲就是会让孩子“没面子”。孩子通常会因为家长说话的方式不好，就无法仔细思考他所说的内容。在教育他什么行为是可以接受的，什么行为是不可以的时候，不要让他感到羞耻或尴尬。</span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><br></span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(61, 170, 214);">对好的行为给予赞美</span></strong></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"> </span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">通常，家长会对孩子良好的行为进行夸奖，对不好的行为进行批评。孩子喜欢得到家长的关注。家长关注孩子时，要么是表扬好的行为，要么是惩罚坏的行为。建议在孩子表现不好，比如孩子通过吵闹寻求关注的时候，忽视他们。如果你仍然在给他们关注，这正是他们想要的。因此，他们会继续用这种行为来获得你的反应。如果你表扬某种行为，孩子会因为你注意到了，而去重复该行为。</span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><br></span></section><p style="text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 100%;height: auto;"></span></p><section style="text-indent: 0em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"></span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><br></span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(61, 170, 214);">划清边界后再沟通</span></strong></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><br></span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">沟通中的情绪是连接两个人心理的桥梁。家长有情绪时，要清楚、简单、就事论事地跟孩子表达，具体可以采用“描述事实+表达感受+提出建议”的句式。说完后，先等待孩子的反应。如果孩子能调整情绪，恢复到理智层面继续对话，那亲子谈话可以继续。就事论事，谁的事谁决定谁承担结果。在此过程中，我们不要否定孩子，应让孩子自己选，尊重孩子的选择。</span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><br></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><strong><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(61, 170, 214);">帮助孩子对感觉进行解释</span></strong></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><br></span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">在因为孩子调皮而发怒之前，要先找出造成孩子这种行为的原因。孩子不听话的最大原因之一，是他们还没有学会用另一种方式来表达自己的感受。家长们的目标应该是：教育孩子通过讲述自己的感受来有效地表达自己，而不是动手。</span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><br></span></section><section style="text-indent: 2em;"><span style="font-size: 15px;">比如，当孩子推倒弄坏他东西的朋友时，请向孩子解释为什么这个行为是不好的：“宝贝，我知道你生气了，你的朋友把你堆起来的房子撞倒了，你生气没关系，但是你生气的时候，就告诉你的小伙伴‘我很生气’，你不能去推别人。”</span></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="margin-bottom: -30px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; justify-content: flex-start; display: flex; flex-flow: row nowrap; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: 109.25px; align-self: flex-start; flex: 0 0 auto; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; transform: rotateZ(57deg); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: auto; align-self: flex-start; flex: 100 100 0%; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><svg viewBox="0 0 1 1" style="float:left;line-height:0;width:0;vertical-align:top;"></svg></section><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: 109.25px; align-self: flex-start; flex: 0 0 auto; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; transform: rotateZ(298deg); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 10px; margin-bottom: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; line-height: 0; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: middle; display: inline-block; line-height: 0; width: 98.3125px; height: auto; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section><section powered-by="xiumi.us" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: justify; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p></section></section></section></section></section></section><p><br></p><section style="margin-top: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; text-align: right; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></span></section><hr style="border-style: solid; border-right-width: 0px; border-bottom-width: 0px; border-left-width: 0px; border-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.1); transform-origin: 0px 0px; transform: scale(1, 0.5);"><section style="margin-top: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; text-align: right; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;">内容来源于</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">“儿童成长教育”</span></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; text-align: right; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; text-align: right; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><p style="margin-bottom: 0em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-indent: 34px; color: rgb(178, 178, 178); box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 本公众号转载的文章仅作分享之用，文章版权及插图属于原作者。如果在版权上存在争议，请与我们联系，我们会及时处理。</span></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-bottom: 0em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="display: none;"><mp-style-type data-value="3"></mp-style-type></p><br>转载声明：本文转载自「家庭教育报社」，搜索「jiatingjiaoyubaoshe」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/8a-xF29aPT7c1yF7MsPHEg">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
页:
[1]