如何疗愈孩子内心的创伤？这6句话，家长一定要知道！
<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;width: 578px;visibility: visible !important;height: 386px;"></span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们每一个人都有童年，每个人的童年都会或多或少的受到伤害。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">或许现在的我们已经为人父母，在抚养孩子的过程中，还是会有意无意伤害自己的孩子。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; font-family: 微软雅黑; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我们都知道，童年时期的心理创伤会伴随一个人一生，会对一个人生活的各个层面产生影响。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">那么，该如何疗愈孩子内心的创伤？如何疗愈自己童年受到的伤害？</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: inherit; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p><section data-role="paragraph" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">以下六句话，正是针对「内在小孩」的矫正性治疗，通过内在小孩的疗愈语言，修复内在小孩的创伤。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p></section><p style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-size: 16px;border-radius: 8px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;height: 250.144px !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 564px !important;"></span></p><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; 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margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: bottom; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 603px; vertical-align: bottom; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 2em; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对不起</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 603px; vertical-align: bottom; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 2em; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></strong></span></p></section></section></article><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; white-space: pre-wrap; text-align: center; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“对不起“，</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center; white-space: pre-wrap; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important;">是多少孩子期盼能从家长口里说出来的话语。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每个孩子都不希望自己被指责，尤其是当家长误解自己的时候。孩子渴望家长的那句“对不起”的背后，无非是想得到家长的理解，证明自己是值得被爱的。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">然而，当这句“对不起”被家长隐藏的时候，孩子内在的伤痛，也正随着愤怒、悲伤、委屈等情绪一点点地累积着。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当家长意识到自己的言行已经误解了孩子，应当及时道歉。道歉不仅能及时消除误解，还能树立家长勇于担当、以身作则的形象，这对孩子的影响无疑是正面且积极的。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当遭到父母的误解时，无论是哪种方式的误解，每个孩子渴望的无非都是家长真诚的道歉，填补内心深处的那个缺口。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(2, 204, 157); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 2em; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: currentcolor none 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“对不起”尽管只有三个字，传递的信息却是：你没有那么糟糕，我误解了你，甚至伤害了你，我有不对的地方，我承认我的错误，并向你真诚道歉。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="88212" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 25.6px; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 2px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-style="color: #888888; font-size: 14px;" style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 599px; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(226, 226, 226); box-shadow: rgb(226, 226, 226) 0px 16px 1px -13px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每个家长曾经也是个孩子，</span></strong></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">回首自己的童年，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">是否也被自己的家长误解？</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当我们自己被误解时，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">是否也曾渴望家长跟自己道歉？</span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“得不到的永远在骚动”，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">内在很深创伤的修复，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有时仅仅只需要一句：</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“对不起”</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-support="96编辑器" data-style-id="38234" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; align-items: flex-end; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-bottom: -13px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 23px; height: 23px; border-width: 3px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(81, 205, 167); border-radius: 50%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-left: 12px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(92, 120, 215); width: 35px; height: 35px; visibility: visible; transform: rotateZ(0deg); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 35px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong data-form="0" data-num="1" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">02</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: bottom; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 603px; vertical-align: bottom; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 2em; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这不是你的错</strong></span></p></section></section></article><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子内心受伤的原因有很多，可能来源于外部，也可能源于内在。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当孩子受伤时，常常伴随的是恐惧、悲伤、自责等负面情绪，而且往往容易将矛头指向自身，认为自己很糟糕，爸妈会因此不爱自己，厌恶和否定自己。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">创伤心理学认为：处理创伤最有效的方式，是让受伤者感受到安全感，让其建立正性体验，暂时远离负性体验，让其感觉到安全与支持。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">因此，当受伤的孩子责难自己的时候，家长应直接告诉孩子“这不是你的错”。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">也许有的家长认为，孩子受伤确实是因为他自身的某些问题，这时告诉他不是他的错，不是助长他推卸责任吗？于是很多家长可能会利用此时进行说教，试图让孩子达到痛定思痛的效果。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">殊不知此时的做法，如同火上浇油，雪上加霜。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">试想，当你处于强烈的负性情绪体验中，此时有人还在你耳边进行指责或说教，你的感受是什么？<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“这不是你的错”直接传达的信息是：我没有指责你的意思，并不会因为这件事情否定你这个人，我依旧是爱你的</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">并且，在此基础上，对孩子说一些鼓励性的言语，效果会更好。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section title="858，更新于2016-08-29 11:13" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="88212" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; line-height: 25.6px; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 2px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-style="color: #888888; font-size: 14px;" style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 599px; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(226, 226, 226); box-shadow: rgb(226, 226, 226) 0px 16px 1px -13px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;background-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(238, 237, 235);background-size: 22px;background-position: center center;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 578px !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当家长的指责和训斥，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">转变成一种包容与理解时，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子的伤害很快就被疗愈了。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">父母与孩子之间，<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子和他人之间的感情，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">就会自然的流动下去。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 14px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-support="96编辑器" data-style-id="38234" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; align-items: flex-end; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-bottom: -13px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 23px; height: 23px; border-width: 3px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(81, 205, 167); border-radius: 50%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-left: 12px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(92, 120, 215); width: 35px; height: 35px; visibility: visible; transform: rotateZ(0deg); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 35px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong data-form="0" data-num="1" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">03</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; vertical-align: bottom; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 603px; vertical-align: bottom; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 2em; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这种事情不会再发生</strong></span></p></section></section></article><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当家长意识到自己的言行已经给孩子带来极大的伤害时，应该第一时间坚定而决绝地告诉孩子“这种事情不会再发生”。</span></strong><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">很多来访者在咨询室里痛诉自己的成长经历时，经常会提及家长如何一而再再而三地伤害自己的心灵。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">家长自己却从未意识到，或者意识到了却没有任何的反应与表示，甚至搪塞、否认、狡辩。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如，一个来访者的孩子说，母亲曾经拆过她的信件，并且因此侮辱她。但母亲却矢口否认，表示没有这回事，孩子当时脸憋的通红，眼泪一下就掉下来了。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对于孩子而言，尽管从辈分上自己未能与家长平起平坐，但是在他们的心里，常常有着一杆天平，自己在这头，家长在那头。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子渴望能够与家长平等、真诚地沟通。而当天平常年失衡时，家长看似是赢了、战胜了孩子，但孩子的心，早就对父母关闭了。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="88212" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 25.6px; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 2px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-style="color: #888888; font-size: 14px;" style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 599px; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(226, 226, 226); box-shadow: rgb(226, 226, 226) 0px 16px 1px -13px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 578px !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果说“对不起”是一颗救心丸，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">那“这种事情不会再发生”</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">就是一颗定心丸。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在孩子受伤时，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“这种事情不会再发生”</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">的分量重如泰山，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一是修复现实的创伤，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">二是给予了孩子希望。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这是一句一言九鼎的话，需要家长自身的反省、担当和魄力。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">作为灵丹妙药，使用需要谨慎。假如家长总是不停地重复保证，却依旧故伎重演，那么孩子的信任也将随着家长的失信而下降。 </span></section><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section data-support="96编辑器" data-style-id="38234" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; align-items: flex-end; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-bottom: -13px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 23px; height: 23px; border-width: 3px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(81, 205, 167); border-radius: 50%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-left: 12px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(92, 120, 215); width: 35px; height: 35px; visibility: visible; transform: rotateZ(0deg); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 35px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong data-form="0" data-num="1" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">04</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: bottom; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 603px; vertical-align: bottom; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 2em; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我爱你</strong></span></p></section></section></article><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我爱你”——这是多少孩子梦寐以求能从家长口里说出来的<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一句</span></strong>话，是多少家长想表达却深埋心底的<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一句话</span></strong>。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当孩子受伤时，特别是当孩子觉得自己犯了错、闯了祸、变得糟糕透顶、不可饶恕时，往往沉浸在担心、害怕、恐惧中，觉得家长不会再爱自己了。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86005" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-bottom: 16px; padding: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; overflow: auto; font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.45; border-radius: 3px; background-color: rgb(247, 247, 247); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="color: rgb(136, 136, 136);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;">曾经看过一个故事：</span><br></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">意大利的一对夫妻，结婚多年后生了一个男孩。夫妻恩爱，孩子可爱。孩子两岁时，有一天，丈夫出门的时候，看到桌上有一瓶打开盖子的药水，他大声地提醒妻子记得把药瓶收好，然后匆匆赶去上班。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">妻子在厨房忙得团团转，忘了丈夫的叮咛。男孩拿起药瓶，被药水颜色所吸引，一口气喝光了药水。由于药的成分剂量高，孩子虽然及时送到医院，但已经回天乏术。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">妻子被突然发生的意外吓呆了！</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">她不知道如何面对丈夫，陷入了巨大的恐惧中。当丈夫接到消息第一时间赶到医院时，面对孩子的尸体，尽管他也很伤心，但是，他拥抱住妻子，在妻子耳边说了一句话“我爱你”。</span></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这个故事，何其感人与震撼。丈夫对妻子的爱，向我们展示了什么是无条件的爱，在巨大的伤痛面前，“我爱你”这句话充满着温暖的治愈性，简单直接、直抵心灵。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当孩子受伤时，一定是他最虚弱时，请用爱为他作最好的治疗。心理学家说卡尔·罗杰斯说：“爱是深深的理解和接纳”。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我爱你”这简单的三个字，传递出来的信息就是：我理解你此刻的难受与伤痛，我愿意接纳这样的你，无论你做了什么，变成什么样，你永远都是我最亲爱的孩子</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="88212" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 25.6px; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 2px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-style="color: #888888; font-size: 14px;" style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 599px; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(226, 226, 226); box-shadow: rgb(226, 226, 226) 0px 16px 1px -13px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 578px !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">每个孩子，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">都值得拥有无条件的爱，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不管他做了什么样的事情，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">都是值得被爱的。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">纵使有千言万语，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">抵不过一句“我爱你”。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-support="96编辑器" data-style-id="38234" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; align-items: flex-end; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-bottom: -13px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 23px; height: 23px; border-width: 3px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(81, 205, 167); border-radius: 50%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-left: 12px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(92, 120, 215); width: 35px; height: 35px; visibility: visible; transform: rotateZ(0deg); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 35px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong data-form="0" data-num="1" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">05</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: bottom; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 603px; vertical-align: bottom; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 2em; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我为你感到骄傲</strong></span></p><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 603px; vertical-align: bottom; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 2em; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></strong></span></p></section></section></article><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在心理咨询室里，无数的来访者提及自己的成长经历时，总会因为自己的努力与成绩没能得到家长的肯定而潸然泪下</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。</span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 603px; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 2em; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; color: rgb(73, 125, 228); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> </strong></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有多少孩子，终其一生的努力拼搏，</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 仅仅为了获得家长的一句肯定</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">受伤的孩子，内心脆弱时，更需要家长的及时肯定。假如孩子总是得不到家长的肯定与鼓励，除了一根筋死磕到底证明自己以外，还可能走向极端，自暴自弃，或破罐子破摔。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">面对受伤的孩子，“我为你感到骄傲”这句话所传递的信息是：你的努力和付出，你的成绩和进步，我看到了，你很棒！</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在“看到”的基础上“肯定”，是家长需要传递给孩子的态度。但</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;">大多数的父母在孩子达不到自己的期望时，就会表现出指责、不耐烦、失望的态度。</span></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">尽管在一定程度上这种态度可能会促进部分孩子发愤图强，但是往往也传达了一种“你是优秀的我才爱你”的<span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 28px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">信号</span>，潜台词就是“如果你不够优秀，我就不爱你了”。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="88212" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 25.6px; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 2px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-style="color: #888888; font-size: 14px;" style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 599px; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(226, 226, 226); box-shadow: rgb(226, 226, 226) 0px 16px 1px -13px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 578px !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">对于孩子而言，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在有条件的爱中成长，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">时常会感觉到受伤，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">质疑家长爱的是否是自己。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我为你感到骄傲”</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">是一种价值鼓励，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">让孩子觉得他是优秀的、</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">被爱的、值得被爱的，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">将来，他就会成长成一个</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">充满自信、</span></strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">充满爱能量的人。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">想象当年你的父母对自己说“我为你感到骄傲”时你的内心体验，或许你很快就明白了这句话的力量。 </span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></section><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-support="96编辑器" data-style-id="38234" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: inline-block; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; display: flex; align-items: flex-end; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-bottom: -13px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 23px; height: 23px; border-width: 3px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(81, 205, 167); border-radius: 50%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-left: 12px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(92, 120, 215); width: 35px; height: 35px; visibility: visible; transform: rotateZ(0deg); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(255, 255, 255); line-height: 35px; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong data-form="0" data-num="1" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;">06</strong></p></section></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: bottom; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 10px; margin-left: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 2em; letter-spacing: 1px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: currentcolor none 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 18px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我永远不会离开你</strong></span></p></section><section style="padding-left: 5px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; vertical-align: bottom; display: inline-block; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-weight: 700; color: rgb(2, 204, 157); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></p></section></section></article><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当孩子受伤时，常常会有强烈的恐惧与焦虑，担心家长抛弃自己，其状态往往是退行到一个婴儿的状态。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子的这种担心被家长抛弃的感受，追根溯源，源自最初与抚养者之间的依恋。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">一般小孩在6个月的时候，就会与母亲（或最初的抚养者）之间建立起依恋关系，当母亲消失在视线中的时候，孩子会哭闹，此时会有一种被遗弃的感觉。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果在最初阶段母婴间的依恋关系没有处理好，对孩子而言，内心会留下一种创伤。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当日后再次出现创伤性事件时，孩子就会重新体验到被母亲抛弃时的创伤性场景，痛彻心扉。</span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; font-family: 微软雅黑; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">因此，当孩子内心受到较大的创伤时，此时孩子的心理状态与婴儿无异，作为家长，应让孩子体验到一种被完美的爱照顾着的感觉。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; color: rgb(64, 118, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我永远不会离开你”，能把孩子带到与母婴一体化的那个温暖、舒适的场景中，让孩子在正性的体验中，修复根源于童年早期时的创伤</strong><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">。</strong></span></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: 微软雅黑; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="88212" style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; border-width: 0px; border-style: none; border-color: initial; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; line-height: 25.6px; background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 2px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section data-style="color: #888888; font-size: 14px;" style="padding: 10px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; width: 599px; border-width: 1px; border-style: solid; border-color: rgb(226, 226, 226); box-shadow: rgb(226, 226, 226) 0px 16px 1px -13px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 578px !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我永远不会离开你”，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">传递的更多是一种精神上的陪伴与关怀。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">即便在现实层面，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我离开了你，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但是我对你的爱，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">将会内化为一种力量，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在你心底，陪伴着你，</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(76, 76, 76); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> 温暖着你，滋养着你。 </span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; min-height: 1em; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; visibility: visible; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></p><p style="margin: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; widows: 1; caret-color: rgb(51, 51, 51); line-height: normal; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">尊重原创，版权为原作者所有，如有侵权，请联系我们删除。欢迎投稿</span></p><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-size: 16px;"><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; text-align: right; justify-content: flex-start; line-height: 1.75em;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; display: inline-block; vertical-align: top; width: 387px; height: auto;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box; font-size: 14px; color: rgb(225, 60, 12);"><p style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box;"><br></p></section></section></section></section><p style="display: none;"><mp-style-type data-value="3"></mp-style-type></p><br>转载声明：本文转载自「青少年儿童心理健康」，搜索「youngkids2020」即可关注，[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/Yct5KZeC0cx924znLjIf0A">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>1. “我明白你的感受。”
当孩子表达自己的情绪时，不要试图立即解决问题或简单地说“别难过了”。相反，倾听他们的话，并向他们表示理解和支持，让他们感到被关心和安慰。
2. “我们一起来想办法解决问题。”
帮助孩子认识到问题并提供积极的解决方案。这不仅会增强孩子的信心和掌控能力，还能帮助他们学会处理困难情况的能力。
3. “我爱你，无论发生什么事情。”
孩子需要感受到家庭中的爱和稳定。这句话是一种深刻的表达方式，让孩子知道他们在任何情况下都能得到你的爱和支持。
4. “谢谢你告诉我这些。”
当孩子分享或敞开心扉时，表达感激之情是很重要的。这也能够让孩子感到被重视和被听到的重要性。
5. “我们可以找专业人士来帮助我们。”
如果您发现孩子正在经历困难的情况，寻求专业帮助可能是最好的选择。这个建议可以帮助孩子明白，寻求帮助是正常且有益的。
6. “我相信你能够克服这个难关。”
带着肯定的态度鼓励孩子面对挑战。这让孩子感到自己可以处理事情，从而增强他们的自信心和勇气。
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