gongyi020 发表于 2023-2-19 10:16:27

每5个孩子就有1个抑郁:拿什么拯救你,不快乐的孩子

<div class="wx_rich_media_content" id="jsWxContainer"><section style="line-height: 1.75em;" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;text-align: center;width: 577px;height: 306px;"></span></section><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" mp-original-font-size="17" mp-original-line-height="27" style="outline: 0px; visibility: visible; line-height: 27px;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86005" mp-original-font-size="17" mp-original-line-height="27" style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;line-height: 27px;"><section data-autoskip="1" mp-original-font-size="17" mp-original-line-height="24" style="margin-bottom: 16px;padding: 16px;outline: 0px;overflow: auto;line-height: 24px;border-radius: 3px;background-color: rgb(247, 247, 247);visibility: visible;"><p mp-original-font-size="14.666666984558105" mp-original-line-height="25.666667938232422" style="margin-top: 0pt;margin-bottom: 0pt;outline: 0px;font-size: 14.6667px;color: rgb(73, 73, 73);line-height: 25.6667px;visibility: visible;"><span mp-original-font-size="14.666666984558105" mp-original-line-height="25.666667938232422" style="outline: 0px;letter-spacing: 0.5px;visibility: visible;font-size: 14.6667px;line-height: 25.6667px;"><strong mp-original-font-size="17" mp-original-line-height="25.666667938232422" style="outline: 0px;color: rgb(51, 51, 51);font-size: 17px;visibility: visible;line-height: 25.6667px;"><span mp-original-font-size="15" mp-original-line-height="25.666667938232422" style="outline: 0px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(71, 72, 76);visibility: visible;line-height: 25.6667px;">编者按</span></strong><br mp-original-font-size="14.666666984558105" mp-original-line-height="25.666667938232422" style="outline: 0px;visibility: visible;font-size: 14.6667px;line-height: 25.6667px;"></span></p><section mp-original-font-size="17" mp-original-line-height="29.75" style="outline: 0px;line-height: 29.75px;visibility: visible;"><br></section><section mp-original-font-size="17" mp-original-line-height="29.75"><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;">抑郁,几乎是现在这个时代里,许多人不得不面对的一个心理挑战。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;">当我们困在了抑郁的状态里,我们自身对抑郁的误解,身边人对抑郁的错误对待,往往让小问题变成了大问题。</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;">那么,要如何为抑郁这一片灰暗的世界,带入一丝光明,并循着这道光,找到出路呢?</span></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;"><br></span></section><section style="line-height: 1.6em;"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;">我想,下面这个故事的分享,能够让你体验和学习到,当我们在充满挑战的生命旅途上,连接和携带上资源时,那么,资源,就是照亮和遍及我们生命里每一个角落的那道光······</span></section><br></section></section></section></section><p style="text-align: right; margin-top: 0em;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 13px;">选自|黄仕明《停止你的内在战争》<br></span></p><section style="text-align: right;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><br></span></section><p style="text-align: center;margin-bottom: 0em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 2px; color: rgb(214, 168, 65);">每一次声嘶力竭的呐喊</span></strong><br></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.6em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 2px; color: rgb(214, 168, 65);">换来的回应却是“你有问题”</span></strong></span><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(58, 58, 58); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 18px; letter-spacing: 2px; color: rgb(214, 168, 65);"><br></span></strong></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">红莉带着女儿安安从另外一个城市坐飞机过来广州找到我寻求心理咨询,原因是女儿安安被诊断为抑郁症,从学校辍学在家,女儿的状态让她焦虑不已。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">当我们三个人坐在我的办公室时,我明显感觉到三股完全不同的能量存在于这个空间。</span></strong></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">红莉,热情而有礼地说着她从网上看到我的专访,被深深触动,直觉地认为我可以对她的女儿和家庭有所帮助,不远千里来到,对我充满厚望。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">安安,如同一个入定的禅师,身体纹丝不动,但她的眼神和我过去接触的来访者都不同,没有任何对权威的投射与讨好,她安静地、冷冷地、淡淡地审视着我,无声地在我身上找寻着可以让她信任的蛛丝马迹。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">在和安安的眼神交错的那一刻,我内心轻轻地震了一下,她的双眼似乎看穿了我故作镇定的外表,直视着我咨询师职业面具背后的“冒牌者症候群”:她们带着这么大的期待来到我这里,我到底能不能帮到她们?</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: rgb(171, 25, 66);"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">也在这一瞬间,我决定放下所谓助人者的角色和面具,放下“对”的理念和技术,用真实和坦诚来面对面前这个女孩。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="text-align: center; margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.5440000295639038px;text-align: center;white-space: normal;display: inline;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;width: 577px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我简单地对她们的到来表达了欢迎,并注意到安安的手腕有着一块块淤青,于是问是怎么回事。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">妈妈红莉回答:“那是前两天我带孩子去了医院做全身检查,因为抽血留下的,在医院也做了CT,医生说孩子的身体没有问题,但我总觉得她有问题。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">安安</span><span style="caret-color:rgb(57,57,57);color:rgb(57,57,57);font-family:Optima-Regular,PingFangTC-light;font-size:15px;letter-spacing:0.5440000295639038px;text-align:center;">突然脸部变得扭曲,转头盯着妈妈,黄豆般的泪水从眼睛里喷涌而下,颤抖着的声音从牙缝里挤出来:“你,怎么可以······说我有问题。”她的声音颤抖着,带着委屈和愤怒交集着。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“你,怎么可以······说我有问题。” 安安的话像电流一样流过我的全身,我马上感觉到,一个为生命中某些“不公”而抗争的女战士原型来到了我们之间,但显然这股火一般的生命能量,并不被人类的社区所欢迎(特别是家庭的场域),没有办法正向地表达和绽放在世界上,于是只能被压抑向内,这也可能是安安只能用“症状”去抗争的原因吧。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">她的话就像从深渊深处发出的呐喊,而且我可以想象,每一次她声嘶力竭的呐喊被换来的回应却是“你有问题”。</span></strong></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我轻轻地拍拍安安的膝盖,“嘿,安安,你可以抬起头,看看我吗?” 我轻柔的声音,希望可以安抚到她紧绷的神经,让她可以感觉放松一点。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">安安微微地抬头,我笃定而温和地看着她的双眼说:“安安,我想让你了解我的态度,我从来不认为任何人有‘问题’,也许她们只是比较独特,但是当世界不能理解这份独特的时候,就认为她们是‘异类’。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">接着我稍稍转向红莉的方向,对红莉解释说:“事实上,在日常的心理咨询中,如果没有生理因素在内的严重情况下,我并不支持给来访者轻易下诊断,诊断不仅会限制咨询师的视角,影响咨询师把来访者当作人来建立关系的能力,一旦做出某种诊断,咨询师或许就会倾向于选择性地忽略来访者不符合诊断的方面,甚至可能推动来访者表现出相应的特质。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><br></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">虽然我貌似对着红莉陈述我的咨询理念,事实上,我在提醒红莉:</span></strong><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(171, 25, 66);"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">父母也是创造孩子“问题”的合作者。</span></strong></span><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">更重要的是,我间接地在向安安表达着我的态度:</span></strong><span style="color: rgb(171, 25, 66);"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">安安,不是一个待解决的“问题”,而是一个人性的存在。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">安安慢慢地平静下来,与开始的冷峻审视不同,眼睛里开始有了一些神采。再一次我温和又坚定地看着她的眼晴对她说:“安安,我向你保证,我在这里并不是要改变你,我在这里只是陪伴你,你这样就很好,你就这样我就可以支持你。无论是你妈妈,还是我,又或者是现在的你,每一个人在生命的旅程上,都会遇到一些感觉难以跨越过去的坎,我很荣幸在这段旅程上做你旅途的同伴并支持你。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">这些真诚的话语,同样的,也在说给我自己听,时刻提醒我自己:让我的心向面前这个活生生的人打开,让“她”触碰我,让“她”教导我。在她的内在,有一个存在想透过她来到这个世界去苏醒,欢迎,欢迎······</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.5440000295639038px;text-align: center;white-space: normal;display: inline;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;width: 578px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><p style="text-align: center;margin-bottom: 0em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(58, 58, 58); letter-spacing: 2px; color: rgb(214, 168, 65);">听见灵魂深处的声音</span></strong></span><br></section><section style="text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“安安,听你妈妈说,你是读化妆专业的,我很喜欢你身上穿的卫衣和球鞋,还有你挑染的头发,不张扬但很有个性,很适合你,我想你对美有很独特的理解吧,对吗?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“不是,我想赚钱。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“赚钱之后你想做什么呢?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“我就可以离开他们。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“他们是谁?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“爸爸妈妈。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“离开爸爸妈妈之后,你就可以怎么样呢?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“我就可以安静了。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“你可以多说一点吗?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“<strong>世界太吵了,我好累······</strong>”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">听到年纪轻轻的她,发出深深的叹息,我打开心,感受安安这个疲惫的,想要逃离的部分,“安安,在你的内在,有某个部分感觉疲惫不堪,‘她’想逃离,我确信<span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">‘她’</span>是有道理的,<span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">‘她’</span>是有意义的······</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><br></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">在<span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">‘她’</span>更深的地方,隐含着一个深深的渴望,我不禁想,<strong>你从一个小女孩变成少女,从少女到成年,接触到成人的世界,或许一下子,对你来说太多了,有那么多的不确定、期望、要求、责任</strong>······</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><br></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">天啊,原来成年人的世界是那么吵的,对于你内在这个娇嫩的部分,也许没有办法一下子就适应。我想对这个感觉疲惫的,想要安静的地方说,欢迎,欢迎······无论如何,我都不会去改变这个部分,我想让<span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">‘她’</span>教导我们,带引我们,帮助安安在未来体验更多的宁静······”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我一边说着,同时也在测试着,我是否能够进入安安的世界,和她一起站在她内心深处的窗口一起望出去。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">她似乎向我打开了一点点,和我之间的连接更多了一些,我继续问道:“安安,你妈妈陪你过来和我见面,透过这次的见面,当你回到你的生活中,你最想为你带来的改变是什么呢?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">她突然像迷失了一样,失神飘走了一会,毫无动静,然后再次回到冷峻审视的眼神。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我提醒着自己不需要追逐标准答案,带着平和,慢慢把身体移向坐在她身旁的妈妈,问她:“你现在和女儿,还有谁一起生活呢?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">红莉说她和前夫在安安三年级时离婚,现在他们分别都有了自己的家庭,前夫也和妻子有了自己的孩子,安安和妈妈、继父一起生活,但是和继父的关系不好,每个星期有一两天到亲生爸爸那里住,和亲生爸爸的关系也不怎么好。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">了解到这些,我似乎更多地理解到安安说“世界太吵了”背后所蕴含的意义了。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><br></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.5440000295639038px;text-align: center;white-space: normal;display: inline;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;width: 577px !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><p style="text-align: center;margin-bottom: 0em;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;"></span></p><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; max-width: 100%; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 1.75em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="font-size: 16px;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(58, 58, 58); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; letter-spacing: 2px; color: rgb(214, 168, 65);">点亮生命的光</span></strong><br></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><br></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我轻轻移向回安安,问她:“你生活中有没有好朋友吗?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">她摇摇头。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“你有什么兴趣爱好吗?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">她摇摇头。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“你和什么在一起时,最能感觉到这个世界特别安静呢?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">突然间,她眼睛往上跳了跳,一丝笑容毫不觉察地飘过她的嘴角,她说:“我很喜欢和我的宠物们在一起。”</span></strong></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“哇,宠物们?可不可以告诉我你养了什么宠物?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“我养了四只猫,一只狗,两只鹦鹉。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“你已经可以开一个小型动物园了,可以告诉我它们的名字吗?” 我带着惊奇的语调回应着。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">安安如数家珍:“我的小狗叫不羁,四只猫分别是太阳,狮子,小六,小白,两只鹦鹉叫乐乐和甜甜。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我打起精神,提醒自己要在最短的时间内把这七只宠物的名字记在心里,“不羁,太阳,狮子,小六,小白,乐乐,甜甜。”我重复地说着这些对于安安有特别意义的名字。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“有两只小猫太阳和狮子放在我亲生爸爸的家里,我去爸爸家里的时候就有它们的陪伴。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我深深地点了点头:“安安,我能感觉到,在你的内在,有一个充满智慧的存在,一个有创造力的潜意识,</span><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; color: rgb(171, 25, 66);"><strong>当生命中有些很重要的东西,没有办法在世界上得到连接时,你自己会去发现这些连接</strong>。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><br></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">你是我见过养宠物最多的人,你懂得去连接这些活生生的生命存在:不羁,太阳,狮子,小六,小白,乐乐,甜甜,和它们连接,感受当下的、美好的生命力,那真的是很棒,那真的是很棒······</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><br></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">安安,我邀请你做一个呼吸,轻轻地闭上眼晴,去感受一下,当你和它们一起时,可能在散步,可能在玩耍,可能把它们轻轻抱在怀里,在那个地方,你感受到什么呢?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“安静······” 安安轻轻地说道。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“那真是太好了,我邀请你做一个呼吸,带到内在感受到安静的地方,在那里呆一会儿······那不是很棒吗?你可以为自己创造你想要的生命体验,安静,安静,安静······”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">安安没有回答,但做了一个深深的呼吸。我可以确信,那是一个内在开始疗愈和整合的呼吸。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我转向红莉,“在这个过程中,你作为我们的观察者,你有什么想法和感受?”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">红莉一边流着眼泪一边说,“真是天壤之别呀,我们认为她这里不好,那里不好,你要努力,你要有勇敢,你为什么不争气?我对她只有担心、焦虑和指责,但是你很尊重她。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">在我的办公室里一直挂着一幅画,上面写着催眠之父米尔顿·艾瑞克森的话:“生命不是一个你在今天就可以给出答案的东西,享受等待的过程吧,享受成为你自己的过程,再没有比种下花的种子,却不知将会是什么样的花盛开更喜悦的事情了。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我邀红莉和我一起看着,“静待花开······” 我说。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">最后,我邀请每个人回到此时此地,分享一下今天我们见面的感受。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">红莉说:“我很感恩有安安这个女儿。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我把眼睛望向安安,期待她有触动的分享,但她摇了摇头。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我稍微感到一丝丝失落,但很快地调整了一下自己的状态,接受安安的反应,然后继续问道:“如果用一个画面来表达一下当下的感受呢?”</span><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57);color: rgb(57, 57, 57);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: center;">(</span><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57);color: rgb(57, 57, 57);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: center;"><strong>抑郁者往往语言匮乏,但内在画面丰富,这是他们的天赋,却也往往是造成他们痛苦的原因</strong></span><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57);color: rgb(57, 57, 57);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: center;">)</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">安安说:“白色里面的光。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><br></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;caret-color: rgb(62, 62, 62);color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-family: &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif;font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);letter-spacing: 0.544px;display: inline;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 677px !important;"></span></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我做了一个深呼吸,把这道“白色里面的光”带到心里,“安安,我感受到了,白色里面的光······这个画面引起了我的共鸣,我能够感觉到它对你很重要。我会支持你,祝福你,祝你梦想成真······在你的生命中创造更多的安静,像是白色里面的光,纯净,安祥,平静,自由,安静,享受(赋予意义)白色里面的光······在未来,祝你梦想成真。”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我带着催眠性的声音,希望能把这些共鸣和祝福灌溉安安的身体中心,如爱尔兰诗人John O'Donohue 所说的一样:</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">“<strong>愿一缕轻风把这些充满爱的话语吹向你</strong></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">环绕在你周围</span></strong></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">像一件隐形的美丽披风</span></strong></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">眷顾你的生命</span></strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">我向安安伸出手,她也回握住我的手,定定地停留了五六秒左右。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">最后,我向她们母女表达了对于她们到来的感谢,在这个喧嚣的世界,因为这一次相遇,我的心更加打开了,更安静了······</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">两千多年前,被称为哲学第一人的泰勒斯说:“</span><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; color: rgb(171, 25, 66);"><strong>我是一个人,不要让任何人性的东西与我疏离。</strong></span><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">”</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">问题之所以成为问题,是因为我们暴力地、非人性地对待内在那些本是人性的自然的存在。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><strong><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57);color: rgb(57, 57, 57);font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 0.544px;text-align: center;">如果,内在不同的面向,都得人性的连接和触碰,那么,疗愈一定会发生。</span></strong></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">那七只宠物的名字,我后来依然记得很久很久,不羁,太阳,狮子,小六,小白,乐乐,甜甜。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;">它们,是闪耀在生命中的光。</span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="caret-color: rgb(57, 57, 57); color: rgb(57, 57, 57); font-family: Optima-Regular, PingFangTC-light; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center;"><br></span></section><section style="text-align: center;margin-bottom: 0em;margin-left: 16px;margin-right: 16px;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;width: 546px;height: 285px;"></span></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em;"><br></section><section style="margin-left: 16px; margin-right: 16px; line-height: 1.75em; text-align: center;"><br></section>转载声明:本文转载自「黄仕明心理」,搜索「shimingxinli」即可关注,[<a target="_blank" href="https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/XhgVe0_okc2Y5r_OfzY-eQ">阅读原文</a>]。</div><p></p>
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