你处理孩子情绪的方式，决定了他的性格与情商
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padding: 30px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; background-color: rgb(242, 244, 245); border-radius: 10px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-top: 15px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; caret-color: rgb(110, 110, 110); box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子的每一种情绪，都需要被看见和尊重。</span><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></section><section style="margin-top: 15px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; caret-color: rgb(110, 110, 110); box-sizing: border-box !important;">唯有父母深深接纳、温和引导，才能对孩子的成长有所助益。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 15px; 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letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"> | 钱志亮工作室（ID：qzlgzs）</span></section><p style="margin-top: 8px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 13px; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section style="margin-top: 8px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">春节期间，发生了这样一件事，让我感触很深。</span></section><p style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">亲戚家一个上初中的男孩，跟爸爸起了冲突，哭着说：</span></p><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="41" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我在家已经很勤快地做事了，为什么他永远对我不满意，总是瞪我、吼我......”</strong></span></p></section></blockquote><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在场的两个长辈都在劝孩子，结果孩子妈妈来了句：</span></section><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="25" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“这点事哭什么？不管怎样他是你爸，有权利说你。”</strong></span></p></section></blockquote><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我赶紧打断了她，告诉孩子：“你说得很好，表达出了自己的感受，想哭就哭吧，不要憋在心里。”</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在大家的安慰下，孩子情绪渐渐平复下来，并决定以后多跟爸爸交流和沟通，改善彼此之间的关系。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px;">在孩子的成长过程中，尤其是年龄小的孩子，哭闹、发脾气，是常有的事情，家长们都不陌生。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">然而许多家长见不得孩子表现出“负面”情绪，就像上文中的妈妈一样，第一反应是否定、批评孩子，甚至再加上一堆大道理，结果适得其反。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">家长处理孩子情绪的方式，影响着孩子的心理健康、性格发展以及情绪管理能力。</span></strong></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;width: 562px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: 110px;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 8px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(5, 57, 81); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">认真对待孩子的情绪</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">经常在网上看到“90后父母带娃” 的话题，视频中，孩子哭闹、发脾气时，年轻的家长就在旁边一动不动地看着，任凭孩子躺在地上撒泼打滚。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;width: 645px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">话题下方的评论区，许多家长都赞同这样的做法：孩子哭闹，别理他，他知道没用，过会儿就不哭了。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但事实是，这种漠视和“冷处理”，会让孩子觉得：</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我的感受一点都不重要。</strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">次数多了，孩子会产生深深的无助感，如果继续被漠视，他可能会采用过激的方式表达情感，比如发脾气、摔东西、打人；或者收起自己的情绪，扮演父母喜欢的样子，压抑自己的感受和需求。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">还有些家长，看到孩子哭闹、发脾气就心烦，想要孩子赶快停下来，于是就否定、打断孩子：</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(154, 154, 154); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="43" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“这点事有什么好哭的，就知道哭！”</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“年纪小，气性还这么大，你再这样我哪里都不带你去！”</strong></span></section></section></section></blockquote><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">家长总认为孩子的情绪微不足道，觉得孩子无理取闹，孩子得不到理解，久而久之，便会对父母失去信任，越来越不愿意向父母表达。</span></strong></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">关于人的感受和情绪，有一段话说得特别好：</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(154, 154, 154); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="188" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“感受/情绪，就像是送信的客人，每一封信，都来自于我们的内心，它要告诉我们一些信息，每一种‘负向感受’，也都有它的正向意义：<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如恐惧是一种自我保护、悲伤可能提醒我们珍惜、生气可以推动我们去做出改变......</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">既然是客人，如果我们以礼相待，收下并好好读读这封信，客人就会走了。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">但如果闭门不接待，这个送信人就会一次次地不请自来，怕你听不到，还可能敲门、砸门、甚至撞门......”</strong></span></section></section></section></blockquote><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子虽然年龄小，但他们的喜怒哀乐，每种情绪，和大人有着同等的分量，那是他们重要的成长体验，应该被认真对待。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(5, 57, 81); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">未被妥善安放的情绪，不会消失，而是会在孩子心中郁结，终有一天会以更加激烈、意想不到的方式爆发出来，不利于孩子个性、人格的健康发展。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">只有允许孩子表达出来，家长才有机会发现孩子的问题、了解孩子的内心，提供及时的帮助。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">家长接纳、疏导孩子的情绪，会让孩子感到被看见、被重视，能够肯定自己的价值，内心生出勇气和积极的能量。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">所以，当孩子坦诚地在你面前表现出情绪，是一件好事，说明他足够信任你，也是在呼唤你的爱和帮助，这真的很可贵。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;width: 578px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: 386px;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;width: 562px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: 110px;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 8px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(5, 57, 81); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">先回应情绪，再处理问题</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">耶鲁大学心理学博士Susan David曾指出：<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="62" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“一个人的情商有一个非常大的决定因素，即情绪敏感力。而取决情绪敏感力高低的因素，主要看小时候他释放情感时，父母对他的态度。”</strong></span></p></section></blockquote><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当孩子表现出情绪的时候，家长正确回应，会让孩子尽快地平静下来，学会如何释放情绪、控制情绪，成为一个高情商的人。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">之后再去了解孩子的需求，或是规范行为，问题就会变得简单很多。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第一步，接纳孩子的情绪，表示理解</span></strong></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">儿童教育专家金伯莉·布雷恩曾说过：<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="40" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“孩子发脾气，是因为他们具有一种天生的、自然的本能，想要执着于实现全部的愿望。”</strong></span></p></section></blockquote><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子年龄小，大脑发育还不完善，情绪控制能力不足，加上表达能力的欠缺，因此做不到像成年人那样的冷静、淡定。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当他们的需求不能得到满足，就会感到焦虑、烦躁，于是通过发脾气、哭闹来表达自己的不满，获得成人关注和同情。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如想要玩具家长不给买；想要妈妈立刻抱抱自己，妈妈一直没抱；想要出去玩，家长不让......</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在这些时刻，家长需要帮助孩子识别和理解自己的情绪。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">不论能不能满足孩子，孩子的行为对不对，家长首先对孩子的情绪表示理解，让孩子明白：</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">我有这样的情绪是正常的，不代表我不好。</span></strong></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如：孩子想要玩具，不给他买，孩子哭闹，家长可以说：<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="34" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我知道，你很想要那个玩具，不给你买，你很生气，还很难过，对不对？”</strong></span></p></section></blockquote><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">孩子背课文半天背不出来，气得把书往桌子上砸，还想要撕掉，家长可以说：</span></section><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="30" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我很理解，背不出来，心里很着急，还对自己感到生气，是吗？”</strong></span></p></section></blockquote><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果是在家长不知情的情况下，可以先问问孩子发生了什么，感觉怎样，做一个倾听者，给孩子一个释放的通道。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这样的允许和倾听，不但有利于孩子平复心情，还能帮助孩子认识各种各样的情绪，这是孩子将来学会管理情绪的基础。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">第二步，处理问题，告诉孩子原因</span></strong></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">有些家长会觉得，总是顺着孩子的情绪，会不会惯坏孩子。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">其实不然，理解孩子的感受和教孩子规矩并不冲突。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果家长能够做好第一步，会发现，孩子渐渐冷静下来，能听得进去父母说的话了。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">这就是接纳和理解的力量，孩子获得安全感，卸下心理防备和攻击性。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">此时，家长再去引导孩子，效果会更好。<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果是不能满足孩子的需求，就诚实地告诉孩子原因：</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(154, 154, 154); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="48" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“家里已经有很多了，不能每次来都买玩具，这次我不想给你买。”</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br></strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“如果你还是想哭，我在这里陪着你。”</strong></span></section></section></section></blockquote><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果是需要规范孩子的行为，就告诉他具体是哪里错了，正确的做法是什么。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">比如，其他小朋友抢了孩子的玩具，孩子情急之下动手打人。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">家长可以告诉他：<br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="65" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><p style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“我知道，别人抢了你的玩具，你很生气。但是打人是不对的，别人会很疼，对不对？下次你可以大声对他说，‘抢东西是不对的，请还给我！’”</strong></span></p></section></blockquote><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">如果孩子每次遇到事情就爱发脾气、暴躁、乱摔东西，就教会他正确表达情绪的方式：打枕头、听音乐、在纸上乱画、深呼吸......不伤害自己和他人。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">在家长的引导下，孩子慢慢会懂得控制情绪，通过合适的渠道释放情绪，学会用语言表达自己，解决实际问题。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; text-align: center; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;outline: 0px;width: 578px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;height: 385px;"></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">国外有位爸爸和女儿的对话视频曾在网上广泛传播，可以说是情绪教育的优秀范例。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">起因是爸爸跟女儿开玩笑用了不好的词汇，女儿以为爸爸在骂她，于是很生气。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">他慈爱而坚定地看着孩子的眼睛，告诉她：</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(154, 154, 154); font-size: 15px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><blockquote data-type="2" data-url="" data-author-name="" data-content-utf8-length="215" data-source-title="" style="outline: 0px; color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); max-width: 100%; font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“生气没什么大不了，你可以生任何人的气，只是不要沉浸在这种愤怒的心情中太久”；<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">(让孩子明白情绪是合理的，学会接受自己的情绪）</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">“承认自己生气了，然后慢慢放下，就算做不到，我们依然爱你，你的世界依然一片光明”；<strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">（表达对孩子无条件的接纳）</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“想要自己好受一点，可以大喊发泄、或者拿枕头出气”；</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">（教孩子用合适的方式排解情绪）</strong></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><br style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></section><section style="margin-right: 16px; margin-left: 16px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); box-sizing: border-box !important;">“把自己的想法说出来，这样我就会知道你的底线并尊重你......”</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(110, 110, 110); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">（鼓励孩子通过语言表达自己，说出自己的想法和需求）</strong></span></section></section></section></blockquote><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(5, 57, 81); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">当孩子哭闹、发脾气，表现出情绪的时候，考验着家长自身的情绪管理能力。</span></strong></span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">多一份耐心，放下自己高高在上的架子和成人思维，站在孩子的角度，努力去体会他的困境的感受，帮助他理解情绪、表达情绪、管理情绪。</span></section><section style="margin-top: 24px; margin-right: 8px; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">好好回应孩子的情绪，他会在这样的爱和尊重中，成长得自信、阳光、乐观，更容易收获精彩、幸福的人生。</span></section><p style="margin: 24px 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">点个</span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); box-sizing: border-box !important;"><strong style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; box-sizing: border-box !important;">【在看】</strong></span><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;">，希望每位父母，都能练就接得住孩子“负面”情绪的能力。</span></p><section class="channels_iframe_wrp"><mpvideosnap class="js_uneditable custom_select_card channels_live_iframe" data-pluginname="videosnap" data-headimgurl="https://wx.qlogo.cn/finderhead/Q3auHgzwzM6bqGTCkqgnJl02vqRzDiaP9ib65hudAy7klMrceDtdJNVw/0" data-username="v2_060000231003b20faec8cae08019c5d0ca07ec32b077fc1f1290fc8420f096956311a4b2904c@finder" data-nickname="男孩派" data-desc="将在02月21日 10:00 直播" data-intro="教育内卷下，如何保护孩子的心理健康？" data-noticeid="finderlivenotice-v2_060000231003b20faec8cae08019c5d0ca07ec32b077fc1f1290fc8420f096956311a4b2904c@finder-1676127278953640-138783879" data-type="live"></mpvideosnap></section><p style="margin: 1.5em 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); font-family: system-ui, -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 2em; text-align: center; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; font-size: 16px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span class="wxart_image" wx-style="display:inline-block;margin-bottom: 0em;outline: 0px;color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.8);letter-spacing: 0.544px;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif;display: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 73px !important;"></span></span></p><p style="margin: 24px 8px 0em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.6em; font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 12px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: center; caret-color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;">*来</span><span style="margin-bottom: 0em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 12px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: center; caret-color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;">源：钱志亮工作室（ID: qzlgzs），致力于为家长提供专业、实用的育儿知识和理念。</span><span style="margin-bottom: 0em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 12px; letter-spacing: 0.5px; text-align: center; caret-color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-family: -apple-system-font, system-ui, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"></span></p><section style="margin-right: 8px; margin-bottom: 0em; margin-left: 8px; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(34, 34, 34); letter-spacing: 0.544px; line-height: 1.6em; font-size: 16px; font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Arial, sans-serif; box-sizing: border-box !important;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0em; outline: 0px; max-width: 100%; color: rgb(136, 136, 136); font-size: 12px; 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