究竟是谁制造了问题孩子？
<div style="max-width:677px !important;"><p style="white-space: normal;text-align: center;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></p><p><br style="font-family: 微软雅黑;white-space: normal;"></p><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;font-family: 微软雅黑;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86013" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin: 10px 5px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 5px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-shadow: rgb(230, 230, 220) 1px 1px 5px 1px;border-radius: 2%;background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0.6);overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">从本质上讲，这个世界上不存在有问题的孩子，只存在有问题的家长。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">有这样几个比喻——</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">家长（原件）→孩子（复印件）</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">家长（树根）→孩子（花朵）</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;">家长（本体）→孩子（投射到银幕的像）</span></p><section style="padding: 20px 10px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 5px 0px 0px;border-style: solid none none;border-left-color: rgb(219, 219, 219);border-top-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);border-bottom-left-radius: 2%;border-bottom-right-radius: 2%;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">……</p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">理解了这个，我们在教育孩子的过程中会减少许多阻力，不妨耐心阅读本文，或多或少都会带给我们一些启发。</p></section></section></section></section><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;font-family: 微软雅黑;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86134" data-color="rgb(254, 109, 0)" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);font-size: 18px;background-color: rgb(254, 254, 254);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">究竟是谁制造了问题小孩？</strong></span><br style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);font-size: 20px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">家长们常常「看到」的孩子的问题，其实是自己的问题在孩子身上「开的花」。孩子就像是家长的投射银幕，在孩子身上看到了问题，本质是自己问题的外在投射。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果没有角度、判定，家长眼中会出现有问题的小孩吗？</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果我们眼中出现了有问题的小孩，那是谁的问题？</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">是谁制造了有问题的小孩？</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">是我们自己。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们创造了一些问题概念，然后投射在孩子身上，</span><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">是我们眼花，把一块完美无瑕的玉看成了一块丑陋的石头。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果我们认为小孩有问题，一定要反过来，在自己身上寻找问题的根源，就像看到银幕上有一些瑕疵，先看看投影仪的镜头上有没有问题。</span></p><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;font-family: 微软雅黑;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86134" data-color="rgb(254, 109, 0)" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">自己的恐惧越多，对孩子要求就越多</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);font-size: 20px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果你是一个恐惧的家长，你就会有一个问题孩子。你的恐惧越大，你眼中的小孩问题就越多。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">恐惧导致掌控。</span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">越恐惧，就越倾向于把握某种东西，以便让自己有安全感。掌控者是头脑，而小孩通常都是自由的心，他们像水一样流动，很难被掌控。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这使得我们越想抓住、越想驾驭、越想掌控，却越抓不住、越驾驭不了、越掌控不住。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">恐惧越多，对孩子的要求就越多，我们眼中看到的小孩的问题也就越多。所以，如果小孩是一个问题孩子，事实真是这样的吗？没有家长的压制或判断，他依然是一个很难教育的小孩，这是真的吗？问一问自己。</span><span style="letter-spacing: 0.544px;"></span></p><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;font-family: 微软雅黑;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86134" data-color="rgb(254, 109, 0)" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">给孩子天然成长的机会</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);font-size: 20px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span></strong></p></section></section></section><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们都期待自己的小孩长大后有足够的智慧和能力，那如何才能使一个小孩长大以后呈现出最大的智慧和能力？</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">让他按照天性成长。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果一个小孩按照天性本然的样子成长，他长大以后的智慧和能力将会最大化。但如果不是那样，而是你特别有意识地去培养或训练他，成年以后，或许他在某方面的能力不错，<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">但是他的智慧心将发挥不足</span></strong>。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">放任一匹小马在辽阔的草原上自由奔放地成长，可不是件容易的事，小马的主人得需要多大的无惧的心啊！他会担心小马在道路上遇到各种危险，</span><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他会担心这样放任小马，它长大后会如何如何，等等。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们怎么敢对小孩撒手？我们可没那么大的勇气。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在一个小孩的自由形态上，可以看出一个家长无惧的心到底有多大，不是像老天一样大胆的人，他的小孩无法享受那纯然无边的天空大地。</span></p><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;font-family: 微软雅黑;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86134" data-color="rgb(254, 109, 0)" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">知识教育和智慧教育</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);font-size: 20px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">人们往往把知识多当成有智慧，这是个错觉。</span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在这个错觉的影响下，人们都期待自己的知识多一些，都拼命地往自己的头脑里装知识，这也导致家长们的教育模式是这样。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">家长们在自己身上的希望过期了以后，他们把曾经对自己的希望放在了孩子身上。</span><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">他们希望自己的小孩是一个有智慧的人，于是往孩子的脑子里装更多的知识。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果一个小孩在四岁时就能识别两千个字，背诵《三字经》《千字文》，我们就以为他很聪明，而这有什么用处？只不过是在往一台电脑的硬盘上多储存一些数据而已。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">智慧是一种空盈的状态，而不是一种满实的状态。</span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">过多的知识只能使一个头脑变得狡猾，而狡猾并不是智慧。电脑能够随时调度出千万知识信息，但电脑并不是一个智慧的人脑。</span><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"></span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">对于人来讲，智慧不取决于他里面的「有」，而取决于他里面的「空」。当他里面「空」的部分越多，他运用知识的空间和能力就越大，犹如电脑的硬盘和内存里空白越多，它的运行速度就越快一样。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">教育小孩，给予他「有」，更保留他的「空」，不要把他填得太满。如果把他的头脑填得太满太实，犹如一个瓶子被塞得太紧太实一样，里面的「空」就成为死「空」，这样一个小孩的智慧就发挥不出来了。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">因此，<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">教育小孩，要注意他的「空」。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">知识教育是一种「有」的教育，智慧教育是一种「空」的教育。记住给小孩更多的「空」，而不是「有」。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">请重视智慧教育胜过知识教育。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">寂静法师说过：学习不是为了记住知识，而是为了唤醒爱心，引爆智慧。知识专用，智慧通用。知识不是力量，知识只是工具，智慧才是力量！</span></p><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;font-family: 微软雅黑;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86134" data-color="rgb(254, 109, 0)" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">「要求、期望和负责」是不是爱？</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 20px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span></span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们衡量自己对一个人是否有爱或爱有多深，往往会看对他有没有要求、期望或负不负责。</span><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当我们对一个人要求越多、期望越高、掌控得越狠时，我们就越爱那个人，反之，我们就不爱他，或爱他不深，这是真的吗？</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这是一个错误。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">要求、期望或所谓的负责，仅仅是恐惧的替代物，是恐惧的另一种化身，另一个名字。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在我们的教育中，因为我们自身有恐惧，结果「要求」「期望」或「负责」成为了我们与另一个个体的联结。当我们对他要求、期望或负责时，这能使我们感到与对方联结得更深、更紧，使我们自己感到安全。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">教育是为了弥补安全感的，当一个人越强调教育，其背后的不安全感越大。</span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">教育似乎是一种掌控，建立在对未来和恐惧的幻觉基础上。</span><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">教育是恐惧的面目，一个人越恐惧就越需要它。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">觉者没有教育的概念，因为他们不需要教育。老子从未提倡过教育，因为他处在了道的源头。<span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">万物需要的不是他人给予的教育，而是自我学习和自我教育。</strong></span></span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">要求、期望和负责是不是爱？严格地说，那不是爱，那是完全的恐惧。</span></p><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;font-family: 微软雅黑;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86134" data-color="rgb(254, 109, 0)" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">别把孩子当「人质」</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);font-size: 20px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span></span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">因为家长心存恐惧，在对待孩子教育的问题上，就会无意识地把孩子当成了自我安全感的「人质」——</span><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">你必须变成优秀和美好的，否则我就不安全；你必须变得有能力，否则我怎么能够安心？</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">瞧，家长们在把孩子变成他们内在安全的要挟物了。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当一个小孩是一个家庭中的「人质」时，这个小孩能否受到真正的良性教育？小孩变成了整个社会或家庭的内在恐惧之河上的波涛，他当然无法获得生命中真正需要的。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当我们恐惧，孩子就能感受到恐惧，即使他很小；当我们放松或自信，孩子也能感受到。<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">小孩是一个敏感的接收器，他在反映我们的声音和信息。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">一个好的家长，会把教育的重心由「教育孩子」放到「教育自心」上来。对于觉悟的家长来讲，教育孩子只是个借口，自我教育才是真的呢。<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当我们把自己教育好了，孩子只是美好的反映，自然会变好。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在你的子女教育中，有没有把孩子当成你的「人质」？来思考一下自己。盘查自己内心的恐惧，是教育出好小孩的开始。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">教育从某种意义上是一种治疗，它治疗的正是人类之心的恐惧和愚痴。</span></strong></span></p><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;font-family: 微软雅黑;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86134" data-color="rgb(254, 109, 0)" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">真正的爱是什么</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);font-size: 20px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span></span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们常常会说，一个母亲对于孩子的爱是全然的、百分之百的，真的吗？</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当一个人内心还存有恐惧时，他对另一个人的爱就不可能是百分之百的。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">真正的爱是什么？并不是把自己的命都给他，也不是他要什么都满足，真正的爱和此无关。</span><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">真正的爱是一种无为。</span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">它没有要求，没有任何恐惧的阴影，不隐藏任何掌控的企图，</span><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">它像太阳给予万物光和热一样，给出本性的能量。</span><span style="color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-family: 宋体, SimSun;letter-spacing: 0.544px;"></span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">真正的爱是完全无条件的。无论如何你都爱他，无论怎样你都爱他，你的爱甚至和他无关。这才是真正的爱。这爱像老天对万物的态度一样，给予你但对你没有要求、没有期待。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果把这个标准称为真爱的标准，那么来反思一下自己对孩子的爱是不是真爱。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">你期待他学习好，你期待他做个好小孩，但你知道你的期待曾经暗地里带给他多少压力吗？你越期望他好，就越形成自己的压力，这对小孩的成长有好处吗？</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们对我们的小孩没有期待，不管他怎样我们都爱他，我们尽己所能，但不要求他，</span></strong></span><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">这才是真正觉悟的父母的爱。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">对孩子没有期待的教育，并不比对孩子有更多所谓良好期待的教育差。你觉得是这样吗？在对待小孩的问题上，来重新思考一下你的爱，那是不是真正的爱？</span></p><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;font-family: 微软雅黑;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86134" data-color="rgb(254, 109, 0)" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-size: 18px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">教育孩子就是自醒</span></strong></span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);font-size: 20px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">▲</span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">我们对人生问题深入探索就会发现：<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">当你没问题了，整个世界的问题就结束了。</span></strong>如果我还发现世界是有问题的，那一定是我还有问题。当我不能百分之百地接纳这个世界的时候，那说明我的心还没有实现它自己的圆满。<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">看到世界是圆满的，只是见证自己内在圆满的一个结果。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">如果我在孩子问题上，存在着焦虑、担心或要求，那说明我的内心还深藏恐惧、狭隘的见解、自以为是、好为人师等无明之相。当我问题重重时，我一定正在我的念头上生死翻滚。无论出于这样或那样的原因，只要我还痛苦、焦虑或担心，就一定没有看破生命的幻象，没有看到存在的真相。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">教育是一种自醒，是一种人类的自醒，一种我的自醒。</span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在完成自身生命圆满之途上，孩子及其教育是一座桥。踩着这座桥，我回到了我自己。孩子是我的投射之物，教育是我的投射手段。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">在实现孩子的圆满之中，我必圆满我自己。同样的道理，我在圆满自身的过程中，我的小孩也必圆满。外在世界是内在世界的结果，内在世界给予外在世界美好的能量。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 0.5em;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;white-space: normal;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);font-size: 16px;line-height: 28.4444px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体, SimSun;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">借着我们有一个小孩和教育这个小孩，在我们自己身上下工夫吧，以此来实现整个存在的圆满。<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(254, 109, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">教育是一种自醒的途径，向外劝导孩子，向内劝导自己。</span></strong></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;line-height: 20.48px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 128, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 20.48px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 20.48px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 25.6px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 128, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;line-height: 20.48px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(123, 12, 0);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 28px;font-family: 微软雅黑;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(0, 176, 80);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span></span></span></strong></span></strong></span></strong></strong></span></strong></span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span><br></p><p style="white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></span></p><p style="white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;letter-spacing: 0.544px;widows: 1;box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;font-family: 宋体;font-size: 14px;color: rgb(61, 167, 66);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;">来源：父母学堂，您身边的实战专家，父母好好学习，孩子天天向上！没有问题孩子，只有问题教育！没有不知心的爱人，只有不会相处的关系！</span></strong></p><p style="white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;font-family: -apple-system-font, BlinkMacSystemFont, Helvetica Neue, PingFang SC, Hiragino Sans GB, Microsoft YaHei UI, Microsoft YaHei, Arial, sans-serif;letter-spacing: 0.544px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;overflow-wrap: break-word !important;"><br></p>
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